Can someone be gay and not know it?

It is an interesting question - is being gay an intrinstic property or defined by action? And if not by action what is being gay actually mean? If I pick another descriptor - say muscian - is someone a musician if they have never played an instrument (or sang or composed something)? Most people would say not, no matter how musical they might be. So it could be argued that being gay is something that happens as a result of action , but counter to that you could argue that in finding a member of the same sex attractive makes them gay - this surely requires no action - but not every hetero person finds every member of the opposite sex attractive either - what if they just haven't come across one they do find attractive?

So someone presumably could be homophobic (not racist!) but then have latent gay tendancies themselves. In fact this can happen when a person feels that they can't be gay (for societal reasons) and develops an unreasonable hatred partly because of their own feelings for themselves.

Yes, absolutely.
Without having had a meamingful gay experience, someone might think that they were bisexual or straight.
They might acknowledge that they find certain individuals of their own sex attractive without thinking seriously that they might have a sexual interest in someone of their own sex.
Coming to terms with one’s sexuality can often be a journey/process rather than a case of instant recognition.

People can be anything and everything. No limits and no contradiction is too great.

yes, trying to hide a need

Yes it is called being closeted

Yes some people don’t know if they don’t take time to learn

Not in my opinion.

Quite sad if they are

Probably....?

Being racist and against gays are 2 different things

They in the closet and don’t know how to express it

That's like every other homophobe.

His homophobic actions may be a subconscious form of denial

Denile

Damnit Spiderman

Nope, being gay is a decision

Racist maybe.

Lots of guys play golf