Why are women aged 40+ scared to approach men younger than them( 20s & 30s)??
Are they scared they'll be rejected while most have the fantasy of being with those guys or there's more?
26-30, M
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SilentObZerver · 26-30, M
@lissah thats great!
Fukfacewillie · 56-60, M
Must be nice!
HumanEarth · F
LILPapi69 · 46-50, M
@SilentObZerver Let’s break this down real quick, because when women switch up the vocab from "boy" to "man," they ain't just talkin’ about the number on your driver's license. It’s a whole different vibe, and honestly, it’s got less to do with age and a lot more to do with how a guy carries himself.
Here’s the breakdown of what's really goin' on when they use those words, and how it actually lines up with the calendar.
1. When She Says: "He’s a Boy"
When this comes out of a woman's mouth, it’s usually not a compliment,
Even if the guy is 35, callin' him a "boy" means he's lackin' in some major departments.
The Mindset: It means he’s driven by impulse, ego, and instant gratification. He avoids accountability like the plague. If somethin' goes wrong, it’s always someone else's fault.
The Behavior: Communication is a mess—think ghosting, passive-aggressive textin', or playin' mind games. He wants the perks of a mature relationship or career without puttin' in the actual work.
The Emotional State: He can’t handle deep emotions (his own or hers). When things get heavy, he runs or throws a tantrum.
In short: A "boy" is someone you gotta mother, not partner up with.
2. When She Says: "He’s a Man"
Now, when she looks at someone and says, "Now that's a man," she’s talkin' about a level of respect and presence.
The Mindset: He knows who he is, what he wants, and he’s got a purpose. He takes full responsibility for his actions, his mistakes, and his future.
The Behavior: He says what he means, and he does what he says. His word actually means somethin'. He protects and provides—not just financially, but emotionally. He holds doors, he makes decisions, and he doesn't fold under pressure.
The Emotional State: He’s secure enough in his own skin that he doesn't need to put others down to feel big. He can handle tough conversations without catchin' an attitude.
How It Correlates With Age (The Real Curve)
Now, you’d think this lines up perfectly with gettin' older, right? Like, 18 equals boy, 30 equals man. But the real world don't work like that. Here’s how age actually plays into it:
Age Bracket The "Boy" Dynamic The "Man" Dynamic:
Late Teens to Early 20s The Norm: Expected to be a bit of a boy. They're still figurin' things out, makin' dumb mistakes, and chasin' thrills. The Outlier: If a guy is called a "man" here, he’s got his head on straight early, probably workin' hard, and showin' rare maturity.
Late 20s to 30s The Red Flag: If she's callin' a 32-year-old a "boy," it means he's got "Peter Pan Syndrome." Still clubbin' like he's 21, can't hold a job, or can't commit. The Expectation: This is where society expects the shift. He’s buildin' a life, handlin' business, and actin' dependable.
40s and Beyond The Embarrassment: A 45-year-old "boy" is just tragic. It means he never grew up, still avoids responsibility, and acts childish. The Standard: Total stability, emotional intelligence, and self-assurance.
The Bottom Line
Age just gives a guy time to become a man, but it don't guarantee it. Time ticks away for free, but maturity? You gotta pay for that with experience and effort. A 22-year-old workin' hard and takin' care of his family can be ten times more of a "man" than a 40-year-old guy playin' video games all day in his mom’s basement, complainin' about his ex.
Here’s the breakdown of what's really goin' on when they use those words, and how it actually lines up with the calendar.
1. When She Says: "He’s a Boy"
When this comes out of a woman's mouth, it’s usually not a compliment,
Even if the guy is 35, callin' him a "boy" means he's lackin' in some major departments.
The Mindset: It means he’s driven by impulse, ego, and instant gratification. He avoids accountability like the plague. If somethin' goes wrong, it’s always someone else's fault.
The Behavior: Communication is a mess—think ghosting, passive-aggressive textin', or playin' mind games. He wants the perks of a mature relationship or career without puttin' in the actual work.
The Emotional State: He can’t handle deep emotions (his own or hers). When things get heavy, he runs or throws a tantrum.
In short: A "boy" is someone you gotta mother, not partner up with.
2. When She Says: "He’s a Man"
Now, when she looks at someone and says, "Now that's a man," she’s talkin' about a level of respect and presence.
The Mindset: He knows who he is, what he wants, and he’s got a purpose. He takes full responsibility for his actions, his mistakes, and his future.
The Behavior: He says what he means, and he does what he says. His word actually means somethin'. He protects and provides—not just financially, but emotionally. He holds doors, he makes decisions, and he doesn't fold under pressure.
The Emotional State: He’s secure enough in his own skin that he doesn't need to put others down to feel big. He can handle tough conversations without catchin' an attitude.
How It Correlates With Age (The Real Curve)
Now, you’d think this lines up perfectly with gettin' older, right? Like, 18 equals boy, 30 equals man. But the real world don't work like that. Here’s how age actually plays into it:
Age Bracket The "Boy" Dynamic The "Man" Dynamic:
Late Teens to Early 20s The Norm: Expected to be a bit of a boy. They're still figurin' things out, makin' dumb mistakes, and chasin' thrills. The Outlier: If a guy is called a "man" here, he’s got his head on straight early, probably workin' hard, and showin' rare maturity.
Late 20s to 30s The Red Flag: If she's callin' a 32-year-old a "boy," it means he's got "Peter Pan Syndrome." Still clubbin' like he's 21, can't hold a job, or can't commit. The Expectation: This is where society expects the shift. He’s buildin' a life, handlin' business, and actin' dependable.
40s and Beyond The Embarrassment: A 45-year-old "boy" is just tragic. It means he never grew up, still avoids responsibility, and acts childish. The Standard: Total stability, emotional intelligence, and self-assurance.
The Bottom Line
Age just gives a guy time to become a man, but it don't guarantee it. Time ticks away for free, but maturity? You gotta pay for that with experience and effort. A 22-year-old workin' hard and takin' care of his family can be ten times more of a "man" than a 40-year-old guy playin' video games all day in his mom’s basement, complainin' about his ex.
@HumanEarth EXACTLY! best answer
SilentObZerver · 26-30, M
@LILPapi69 thats great!
EldritchFox · 41-45, F
CloudAngel80 · 41-45, F
For me personally, a younger aged man has nothing to do with it. Approachable, honest, loyal, able to chat and keep conversations, maturity level, education, and yes stamina.
As for other older women..theres multipl factors why older women dont date, they may have been previously abused, they may have kids the same age, etc. I personally tho, i have to be attracted to them or ferl some type of connection..good vibes
As for other older women..theres multipl factors why older women dont date, they may have been previously abused, they may have kids the same age, etc. I personally tho, i have to be attracted to them or ferl some type of connection..good vibes
Strictmichael75 · 61-69, M
@exexec What a pity! Lovely sexy woman
exexec · 70-79, C
@Strictmichael75 Thanks
1490wayb · 56-60, M
i dont know of any woman to ever make the 1st move\approach
SilentObZerver · 26-30, M
@1490wayb well i have had some women make a move on me....so its possible
Strictmichael75 · 61-69, M
How sad
