I Hate My Alcoholic Husband

It is common, just hope you can at some point soon, make the most of your life, and not be dragged down by his.

@Pherick: Thank you. If we take him out of the equation, I'm pretty content with my life. I have a job that I adore and look forward to going to every day. I have pets that are the light of my life. I don't have a lot of friends, but I'm kind of a loner anyway and don't feel life is lacking because I don't have an abundance of friends. In my younger days, I travelled quite a bit. I've seen and done things I never dreamed I would, but am at a point in life where I just want quiet, peace and predictability. The only thing keeping me from having just that is him and he will be gone soon :)

@Mona73: Peace and quiet seems like a very good goal! I am glad to hear you are content, and I hope you are able to reach that full contentment very very soon! You deserve it.

I didn't mean that reply to sound callous or unfeeling. It's just that I have been at this for eight loooong years. I have come to accept reality. I know there is no changing him, no helping someone who doesn't want help. The only thing I can change is myself.

Your correct you cant change him only he can change him IF he wants it .
30 yrs drunk, 8 sober

@Mona73: Your absolutely right, you can't change him if he really wants to change then he would have given an effort to do so. I guess you're left with if he doesn't want to help himself, then I guess you can help yourself by choosing how your going to deal with the situation. Like you said you're not going to stick around watching him drink himself away. Your right. Anyway I hope things get better for you.