I Hate My Alcoholic Husband

So, I'm sitting here 'net surfing and have come across a few stories I know my husband would find interesting, but I can't share them with him because he's drunk and I don't want to start a hours long, rambling, slurring conversation that I have no hope of being able to follow. This is basically every night. It gets quite lonely.
I've had enough. It's not that I want someone else. I just want some peace and quiet and predictability.

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1GHOST · M

Oh no ...... he needs AA and or an intervention .
I know this well .
hugs

Mona73 · 51-55, F

He absolutely refuses any kind of AA. I have to say I am not such a big fan of AA myself. I just never understood how a person was meant to conquer a problem when the first step is admitting they are powerless over it. He has been well informed about alternatives to AA, but won't even consider it. He enjoys drinking and has no intention of giving it up. That's his choice and he is free to make it. I choose not to spend my life watching him drink his away. People want different things. People choose different lifestyle. It happens. **shrug**

Mona73 · 51-55, F

I didn't mean that reply to sound callous or unfeeling. It's just that I have been at this for eight loooong years. I have come to accept reality. I know there is no changing him, no helping someone who doesn't want help. The only thing I can change is myself.

1GHOST · M

Your correct you cant change him only he can change him IF he wants it .
30 yrs drunk, 8 sober

talktome2day

@Mona73: Your absolutely right, you can't change him if he really wants to change then he would have given an effort to do so. I guess you're left with if he doesn't want to help himself, then I guess you can help yourself by choosing how your going to deal with the situation. Like you said you're not going to stick around watching him drink himself away. Your right. Anyway I hope things get better for you.