First counseling appointment...

It just left me sad and feeling defeated. No real advice, she just got an understanding of the situation. I'm so sad and hurt. I really want to talk to my husband..or whatever. ButI want him to understand. Smh. I just want to hide in a hole and never some out but instead I have to mask up and act like mom's all smiles and sunshine and under control.😭😭😭

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Stillwaiting · M

Over 8 yrs of counseling spread over our marriage did us no good as my wife dismissed it all as 4 different counslors all just "took my side". If he doesnt engage/take it seriously .. walk away.

MizzO · 31-35, F

@Stillwaiting we have children and they want their dad and I want what they want for themselves....I'm struggling to connect and I'm not sure there's a way to reconnect. 😭😭😭

Stillwaiting · M

@MizzO I hear you .. that's why I stayed. Nothing I ever did really mattered, the problems are all ~ as they were that first session of the first round 20 yrs ago. It wasn't really in my kids' best interest in the end.

MizzO · 31-35, F

@Stillwaiting Thats disheartening....do you think your children benefited from you staying?

Stillwaiting · M

@MizzO In some ways .. but both have said in some ways it might have been better if we had divorced

MizzO · 31-35, F

@Stillwaiting I think mines feel the same. Being married our lives are so intertwined...there is a fear factor and he makes sure it's present

CardiacKintsugi · 61-69, F

@Stillwaiting i feel sorry you wasted your life like that 😞

Stillwaiting · M

@CardiacKintsugi Wouldn't say wasted .. we have two great sons and have had some times when things were better mixed in, we simply could never sustain it.

MizzO · 31-35, F

@Stillwaiting Sustained peace. Were you able to be at peace after?

Stillwaiting · M

@MizzO I'm still in the marriage .. at least for now .. have some regrets over that.