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Why do people ask you to be kind? It’s not like they remember you for it.

Beautywithin · 36-40, F
People do remember even if they dont care to admit, you should be kind because it's in your nature not because you have been asked to.
They might not remember what you said or did but they will remember how you made them feel.
@SooperSarah When they expect me to clear obstacles that they haven’t tried for themselves, because I’ve done it before. Yes.
@WanderingSavage allowing yourself to be taken advantage of is not the same as being kind.
@SooperSarah I suppose that depends who’s point of view you’re following.

My refusal to be exploited is certainly being perceived as being unkind.
ZashaKitty · 26-30, F
I think people leave a much more lasting impression when they are kind
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I always remember kind people ..
@SW-User For how long? An hour? A day?
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@WanderingSavage for the rest of my life! 🙂
FlutteringWordsSA · 41-45, F
They might not remember it every day but one day when they need to remember it the most, they will. The most important thing is, what was the real purpose of the kindness you extended. Was it for them to remember it or for you to feel that you made a little difference in someone's life regardless of if they remembered it or not.
@FlutteringWordsSA I did the the things I did because I knew they were the right things to do. I didn’t have to be asked.

And I hoped that as a group of people in a difficult environment people would start to look out for each other as group and we could help each other through difficult situations. But no it’s just me, always me doing the heavy lifting.
Jenny1234 · 51-55, F
Yes they do remember
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Jenny1234 · 51-55, F
@SW-User Hey you
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You don't remember kindness from others towards you or others around you?.
That's really sad since it means so much to many.
ClassicRocker · 56-60, M
They usually want something from you.
@ClassicRocker of course.
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I always remember people who are kind ...they are few and far between
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not always true
@SW-User Not always, but in the extreme majority.
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@WanderingSavage well extreme yeah
Iwillwait · M
People always remember how you made them feel.
PhaqueYou · M
So you do it for reward?
@PhaqueYou No. I did it so that people would feel more positive about the situation we are stuck in and that it would encoring them to use their initiative instead of quoting at the first hurdle.

 
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