Idk.. my whole life I've felt nothing from any accomplishments. It just seems like nothings enough & there's always so much more left to do. Idk how to be proud of myself.
I never really thought about it deeply but maybe a lot of us feel that way because we never got that encouragement or people being excited for us when we accomplished things. Idk. I think I typically try to be happy for everyone else but I'm never really happy for me
i haven't really felt all that responsible for any of my accomplishments because of all the support i've been given. I get a nice high after them at times, but honestly i try not to bc i get sad after if i do.
@BlueVeins so the support makes you feel as if its others' accomplishment more than your own? Because support is definitely helpful but you gotta give yourself more credit in those times too man 🙏
Yup. Same. Acknowledgment should be a given. Being seen. I always want people to know I see them, we all deserve that.
I went through some sick, sad shit and nobody cared. Over and over. Then people tell you you’re ungrateful because joy and sadness run neck and neck all the time … psh.
This is an excellent point. Like we’re all in survival mode and overcompensating to keep balance somehow.
@BrokenAbyss I'm sorry you had to go through anything negative 🖤 you seem like an honest & caring person. It sucks that some people can't give you the encouragement you deserve.
I think I always try to congratulate people & be happy for them because you never know if they don't hear it enough. Even when I randomly make eye contact with people I'll usually nod or something to acknowledge their presence. It's all about showing people that you see them, & not just see through them
@ChiefJustWalks YES. I believe in looking people in the eyes. Smiling. I know it makes my day when they smile back. Thank you for being a giving spirit. I know the shit hurts sometimes.
And thank you. I’m cool. Same as you. I heal it within myself by extending it to others. Just makes sense.
@BrokenAbyss yeah it definitely feels nice when a stranger returns the same gesture 👌 some people kinda carry on & don't acknowledge anything but I know everyone's different. Some people are shy or uncomfortable with strangers so I don't take offense if someone doesn't smile back or whatever. I'll still respect everyone the same regardless.
Helping others does seem to be helpful to ourselves, but hey take care of yourself too 😌
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No .. It has to do with my upbringing...it was never good enough for my Mother ...nothing I did was ...I'm used to not getting validation and therefore don't seek it out .....
@SW-User yeah, thats exactly what this post is about. How not getting to celebrate accomplishments or being made to feel like we did a good job, leads to us not feeling that for ourselves as we get older. Almost feels like our accomplishments are just "whatever" still, because thats what they were always treated as before
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@ChiefJustWalks I'm the opposite with my kid ...I tell him how proud i am of him because I know he works hard and tries his best . I don't want him to feel like he isn't good enough .
Bing-fucking-o!!!!! Validation baby. Never had one once of it growing up. Actually never got any from either of my parents up until they died. My life started to feel like i was doing good stuff when I had kids. I live for the kids. The only people who really love me for being me. Now I can start to feel like i matter.
@Dainbramadge I feel like a lot of people with troubled pasts or troubled childhoods, when they have a lot of lot in their hearts still that never got to get expressed, having their kids is the perfect chance to give that all to someone & bless them with the things you wish you had. I imagine that love makes you love them more than you love yourself, therefore you want them to have everything better than yourself.
Idk what my purpose is but I imagine once I have kids, that'll be it. Maybe all the struggle will feel worth it finally. Thanks man
@ChiefJustWalks Well brother that is exactly how I see it. All the BS and hell I lived for so many years was so I would not be anything like that for my kids. I was shown what is important in life by not having it. I learned from my lesson and am making my kids feel what love is supposed to feel like. Hey man. You wanna know the best part about doing the right thing? When they smile when they see you. When they want to do things with you. When they, this really happened, they want top do their homework assignment about you. Ok I will stop now. Even I can see I'm gushing now. LOL
I don’t feel accomplished because of what I’ve done, more like how I did it. I could run a marathon and hate it if I had a bad attitude the whole time. If I did it positively though then that’s something worth celebrating to me.
@Reject that does make sense. I get that. Like if you did something great, what does it matter if you didn't make the best of it? But then thats a good way to think. Because then maybe you have the ability to be proud of the small things too, simply based on actually enjoying it or not 🙏
@ChiefJustWalks I got a gene test done and was put on a supplement that seriously helps me like magic. I'll have to remember the test brand and tell you about it.
A great songwriter wrote "just surviving was a noble fight". Make sure to check that in your head. You don't need me to tell you that there's a billion ways to fuck up, and yet you missed them. Don't be down on yourself because you're not Superman. You have a shitload of time to do great things...think of the huge mistakes you haven't made.
