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35 and hating it!

I never thought that I would say that I hate couples but the truth is that I do. I can not stand seeing two people holding hands I can not stand two people kissing I can not stand looking at family I can not stand it I can not look at it without feeling a hole in my soul. I am just left wondering am I really that bad? I am so ugly am I so bad that no woman would want to spend any kind of time with me? At 35 though does it matter? at this age does it even matter anymore? I am 35 years old and I am too old to learn someone I am too old to understand someone, my time for love has passed and I know it.

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CestManan · 46-50, F

So unlike those "happy" couple you see, you do not have anyone nagging the hell out of you behind closed doors.

Relationships suck anyways. For the first few weeks it is fun and games but then reality sets in and the fighting starts.

Right now you have your freedom, peace of mind, your money and time belong to you... would you really want to give that up over a piece of backside that you will soon get tired of anyways?

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fernie2

@CestManan Your experience in relationships is YOUR experience. Are you saying that NO relationship is healthy? Look within Leggs. If all your relationships were so awful...you have much to do with it...there's not one patient in relationships. You're feeding his bitterness with your own.

SW-User

@CestManan [c=004A59] Well said.[/c]

SW-User

@bushi2020 [c=004A59]I agree that we are "wired", as you say, to be with others. It's natural instinct, and I don't think anyone is born wanting to be alone forever. At the same time, while you are still single, it's good to take the opportunity to appreciate your freedom. Even the best of relationships require incredible amounts of patience, and involve major sacrifice even of things you most love. You had best be sure you're ready for it. [/c]

QuixoticSoul · 41-45, M

You’re not too old, but you just might be too bitter. But unlike your age, that can be changed.

fernie2

@QuixoticSoul Well said!

Notanymore · 36-40, M

Stop.....breathe......take a drink.....now, kick yourself in the balls.....I know it's difficult, but it must be done. Part of getting yourself on track. Okay, primarily, is love your goal?

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Notanymore · 36-40, M

@bushi2020 okay.....that's a start. You know a goal. Do you love yourself?

bushi2020 · 36-40, M

@Notanymore Thats impossible but it is possible to respect yourself.

Notanymore · 36-40, M

@bushi2020 you say it's impossible to love yourself.....therefore it is impossible. Yet, you wish for someone else to love you? Work on this. Find what it takes to live yourself, and be the person that you want to be. If you seek love, it will find you in the process.

SW-User

[c=004A59] Without knowing you personally, I can't say whether it's you or them. It could be that you're never in the right places to meet the right people. 35 is still on the young side; you have many years ahead of you to learn and grow.[/c]

TheLordOfHell · 41-45

Nah. Unless you are dead, there is always time

bushi2020 · 36-40, M

@TheLordOfHell Maybe

LeopoldBloom · M

Are you sure you’re not being unrealistic? It’s not like there aren’t 35 year old single women out there. Maybe you can’t have a supermodel.

bushi2020 · 36-40, M

@LeopoldBloom Seems like I cant have any woman.

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

If you truly know that, then none of what you can't stand should matter. But, since it does that's what you need to reconcile.

fernie2

Your bitterness is toxic

bushi2020 · 36-40, M

@fernie2 Is it bitterness or is it just me being realistic.

ninalanyon · 61-69, T

@bushi2020 Sounds more like defeatism than realism.

fernie2

@bushi2020 You "hate" couples...ok to envy them but not in a hateful way. You don't have what they have, for whatever reason, so you hate them. How is that realistic? It's profound bitterness, which IS toxic in your life. You won't get what you want with all that angst....it chases people away.

Human1000 · 51-55, M

You just need to get in shape and wait for the first round of divorces.

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fernie2

@Human1000 I apologize. After I realized that I misread your comment..I quickly deleted my comment...I thought! SW has a habit of telling you it was successfully deleted but it usually wasn't

Human1000 · 51-55, M

@fernie2 No worries. It’s still there, but appreciate the thought!

bushi2020 · 36-40, M

@Human1000 LOL!

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