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I Am Mental

I cut my arms while drinking because i think my boyfreind likes a woman at his work. I am really distressed. I have so many problems. I just want to hurt myself.
Pdad49 · M
Please don’t hurt yourself, there are so many men that will enjoy you and your beauty! Don’t let one man get you down! It is his loss!
thomassa · M
oh :( i hope you stopped that
Bonnie · 41-45, F
@thomassa yes I havent done that since I posted this
Nicenlong · 41-45, M
You do this because it takes the pain away that you feel inside.truth is emotional pain hurts so much more than physical pain.let me tell you .you are a good person and 'you gotta dig deep.you will be so much stronger after all this. X
SW-User
You look stunning, why would you care. Let him be the jealous one.
Bonnie · 41-45, F
@SW-User aw thankyou
SW-User
@Bonnie my pleasure
Pretzel · 61-69, M
hope things have gotten better for you
Bonnie · 41-45, F
@Pretzel thankyou yes they have
FatherTime · 61-69, M
I know the feeling :(
Bonnie · 41-45, F
@FatherTime I'm sorry
FatherTime · 61-69, M
@Bonnie no I'm sorry on your part. you deserve better <3
Bonnie · 41-45, F
@FatherTime thankyou as do you
Please don't do that anymore. Find a more productive way of dealing with your pain. Talk to loved ones, find a therapist, meditate.... But please don't self-injure.
DownTheStreet · 56-60, M
Why do you think he likes the woman at work?
Bonnie · 41-45, F
@DownTheStreet I write this a while ago and dont feel this bad anymore. I just thought hed find them attractive or interesting and maybe get to know them better. Funny hes not like that but I still thought that
DownTheStreet · 56-60, M
@Bonnie the mind can wander...
TakenDown232 · 46-50, M
Why to hurt your body.

I mean give yourself a lot of sel pleaseure and you will feel better.
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Pretzel · 61-69, M
hope you are feeling better now
or have a better boyfriend
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Bonnie · 41-45, F
@serenecourt101 yeah i know. lucky i havent had an episode like this since i wrote this :) I could do with therapy though yeah.
Sounds like yo7 need help.
SW-User
Many men are cheating jerks .
river52 · 70-79, M
I hope you got past this...
Zonuss · 41-45, M
I hope you are much better off now in your life sweetie.
Bonnie · 41-45, F
@Zonuss thankyou yes I am
Zonuss · 41-45, M
Do not do this. I know it's a complicated issue. But it's not worth it. It's not. 🤔
MrPerditus1 · 61-69, M
I can't claim to understand why someone would want to cut themselves in such a way. I can say I do know how it feels to want to die from things affecting me. But, firstly you say you think he likes a woman, but you don't know. Sure some can say feelings are based in fact, but when you're dealing with distress, like you seem to be, feelings can be a bit tweaked.

Have you ever sought help for the self harm? If not, I would suggest it. I came close to ending it more than once, each time something silly or stupid saved me. I thought I'd be weak if I asked for help, found out I was weaker not asking. I still battle it, almost every day. But with help, therapy and tools I never knew about, I've kept the fight going and found there are things out there that are worth hanging around for.

You say you'll die alone, but I promise you, that's a feeling a lot of people have. I had it in the past and though they are gone, I'm still here. Alone isn't terrible, being with someone that doesn't appreciate you, that doesn't care, that doesn't understand you is worse.

I can't say this is the situation you're in because all I have to go on is that you "think" he likes someone. Self doubt can lead to assumptions that can tear you apart.

If you can, please either talk to him or seek help from someone that has the tools to guide you. You are worth so much more than you might think or feel. 🤗
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@MrPerditus1 Great and reflective advice🙂☘️
MrPerditus1 · 61-69, M
@Coralmist Thank you kindly. :)
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@MrPerditus1 🙂Welcome friend🐞🍂🌻
snofan · M
Please talk to a health professional. If you can't do that initially then find a friend or family member to talk to. These people can be great for support, but you ultimately need to talk to a professional.

I have dealt with my own acute depression. I know that sometimes there are reasons and pressures that pull us down, and other times it just happens for seemingly no reason at all.

I am happy to listen if you want to chat more, but really, my only advice is to talk to a professional. Please.
Why would you hurt yourself because he's a jerk? Take care of yourself and ditch him
Bonnie · 41-45, F
@RadiantRuby thanks
Coralmist · 41-45, F
What makes you think he likes her? Don't hurt YOU friend. You just simply don't deserve it.🌻🌺 If if IF he liked another, you can say thank you for showing me who not to be with.🌸
Valerian · 100+, M
Okay!

Enjoy the misery that you're personally putting on yourself!
All because of a possible erroneous thought!

Your distress and problems are likely made worse by trying to be in a relationship when you cannot handle yourself!

Seek Therapy Soon!
Hurting yourself is not the answer. Even if he does like the other woman, hurting yourself won't change that or punish him in anyway. Best to leave him and find someone better if you can't trust him.
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Bonnie · 41-45, F
@NartTheDragon I dont deserve him anyway. Ill die alone.
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Highskirt · 56-60, M
You deserve better .if he loved you he would not place doubt in your mind of another girl .his lack of respect leaves you feeling low .you will find a great guy who will cherish the ground you walk on .there are thousands of guys like that .I wish you well .please don't harm yourself any more .the right guy will enter your life soon .
Perry4444 · 56-60, M
Please don't do that. Ur not mental. I've self harmed by burning myself in the past. Have u ever heard of EMDR?
Perry4444 · 56-60, M
@Bonnie 🙂 Please do. I wish u well
Bonnie · 41-45, F
@Perry4444 thank you so much <3
Perry4444 · 56-60, M
@Bonnie My pleasure.
Harriet03 · 41-45, F
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Bin him! 🤷‍♀️
Bonnie · 41-45, F
@Harriet03 thankyou
Harriet03 · 41-45, F
@Bonnie
BoyFRIEND ?????????
I'm positive you can do better - find a man and let him know that he has competition - fuck with him then leave his ass...
496sbc · 36-40, M
wow so u think and ur not sure and if he does dump him ur beautiful and can find a different guy
Bonnie · 41-45, F
@496sbc thank you I don't think much of myself tbh
496sbc · 36-40, M
Well why not. What if I told u that ur very pretty and probably could get any guy@Bonnie
Had a close friend who dealt with her concerns the same way. In her case, it was a result of a trauma that affected her self worth. Everybody has different reasons though.

She came very close to disaster.
But eventually sought professional help in talk therapy; she finished university and started a successful career.
There is hope beyond pain, and if she can do it so can you.

The very best to you.
hope you're doing better
Bonnie · 41-45, F
@approachingmyexpirationdate thank you I've been coping OK lately
@Bonnie I'm glad. it's tough to deal with emotional issues.
Bonnie · 41-45, F
@approachingmyexpirationdate it is very much so
MrGoodbar · 51-55, M
I hope you are doing better now
Bonnie · 41-45, F
@MrGoodbar Thankyou I am :)
MrGoodbar · 51-55, M
@Bonnie awesome
gregloa · 61-69, M
Love is like a fart, if you have to force it it’s probably $hit.
Sorry you feel that way.. so what if he likes a woman at work so long as he isnt involved with her?.. dont be too jealous. Maybe dont have him for a bf if he's not really into you.. find someone who is.. take care and be happy. Don't self destruct .. be your own friend and do whats good for you in all fairness
mark245pineapple · 31-35, M
the best part of this story is that you dont even know it with complete certainty to be a fact, yet you are hurting yourself physically and mentally..... not sure if you are ready for a relationship
Valerian · 100+, M
You'd be better off alone and in therapy to resolve you feelings of inadequacies and depression and your assumptions that your recurring angry thoughts of bad things are actually all true!
Yaz69 · 36-40, M
hurting yourself will create more problems for you.
Yaz69 · 36-40, M
@Bonnie plz don't hurt yourself, It will be only you who have to suffer, Take good care of yourself.
Bonnie · 41-45, F
@Yaz69 you're right:( ty
Yaz69 · 36-40, M
@Bonnie You are most welcome:)
DefinitelyMaybe · 26-30, F
please try to see that he is the one who is at fault
try to be strong and resist this urge to hurt yourself
you are better than he deserves
SW-User
What you're doing that's going to create more problem for you rather than helping you out.
ExtremeNext · 31-35
🔫 you didn't get this from me OK 🤫
Bonnie · 41-45, F
@ExtremeNext OK. .. 😆
is hurting self really work?
Driver2 · M
Seriously was it worth it?
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