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I Believe In Courtship

Okay, just to leave it out there for the sake of those who've tried and failed to catch a girl's attention without realizing why. And girls, you're welcome to share your own experiences. :)

I just find it really odd that men I got to interact with in my country, strangers so to say who tried to make me notice them, appeared to have forgotten what chivalry or proper courtship should be like. It's like guys don't know how to court respectfully, not even sincerely anymore and it sucks, honestly.

For instance, I was in a store when there was this Chinese guy who came to me to ask to translate the words in his list of items. I helped him and returned to my own search. Then later on, he came to me again to ask some more, in which I helped him again. It appeared he wasn't very good in speaking in English or my language for that matter, and he basically just showed me the Instagram logo in his phone and asked me if I have one. I really find it so weird! This and many more.

Is it really so hard to ask someone her name (with NO whistling or catcalling involved)? Write poems or give her a flower to show her you're interested? Does it really always have to be a direct question inquiring of her social media account? Girls, back me up here. Seriously, is it really so much to ask for this?

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PoetryNEmotion · F

Only men of a certain age and status and morale know how to romance. They embody chivalry. Many younger men have no clue. Their heads are bent into their cells. It is shameful, really. Social media is rude, abrupt, and unsatisfying. I suggest you look into areas where young men are more olden. Think of hobbies. Perhaps writing clubs. Book stores. Join meetup.com. It has another name now. Some things or places more traditional. Tell people what you want. What you expect. Set standards. Ask these inadequate people-how do you think this reflects upon you? When you just ask for an account? Do you know what women want? Attention. Flowers. A date during which fun is had. No instant sex. No deep throating. Tradition. Wooing. Romance. Why don't they follow older men who know how to treat ladies? They need examples. Stick to what you desire. If a man doesn't date well, he will not live well with you. Make realistic, high standards. The real love of yours will match them. He will never stop trying as you will always try to please your love too. It is mutual, this romance and wooing. If not, move on. Let them eat like pigs at a trough of common.

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BarefootedBoy · 56-60, M

@PoetryNEmotion I've tried the personal ads and online stuff. It's weird who I attract on there.

PoetryNEmotion · F

@BarefootedBoy Your one true love is still searching for you. Would you deny her your love? No excuses.

BarefootedBoy · 56-60, M

@PoetryNEmotion I would not. But I do not think I have encountered her yet.

Mamapolo2016 · F

It may be a lot to ask, but then, who [i]wants[/i] to be courted by someone who chooses the least demanding path? Insist on what you want and don't expect less. Romance should NOT be as fast or easy as downloading an app. Anyone who thinks it is isn't worth having.

Casheyane · F

@Mamapolo2016 Cheers to that!

GlassDog · 41-45, M

I think our rules of courtship and behaviour have been replaced by the rules of using social media, and people now let their online behaviour into their offline life.

CC67219 · 41-45, F

@GlassDog you're exactly right

Mbingh01 · 61-69, F

I wish for the days that a man and a woman actually went out on a date. Where the man treated her like she should be treated. I’m afraid those days are gone. I’m 62 and that’s the way it used to be. Social media has ruined everything.

english · 56-60, M

Cashey its a lost art ,its was foreplay of dating when i grew up ,no cell phones ,no texting ,just you and the lady one on one,you had to be good at it to be noticed, im talking about the lost art of FLIRTING

PoetryNEmotion · F

@english Men need etiquette classes. How to woo. How to flirt. How to pay attention. Etc.

english · 56-60, M

@PoetryNEmotion sure you remember we are from the same generation ,gone lost forever would you do me the honour of the next Dance 🙃

PoetryNEmotion · F

@english No, not now. I am going hiking. LOL. I know on you, English. You are a bit too in my face. I know you are a real man though. Toodles. And I dance too wildly for you.

Montanaman · M

It's almost a lost art. 👍🌹

Casheyane · F

@Montanaman Agreed.

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