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I Believe In Courtship

Okay, just to leave it out there for the sake of those who've tried and failed to catch a girl's attention without realizing why. And girls, you're welcome to share your own experiences. :)

I just find it really odd that men I got to interact with in my country, strangers so to say who tried to make me notice them, appeared to have forgotten what chivalry or proper courtship should be like. It's like guys don't know how to court respectfully, not even sincerely anymore and it sucks, honestly.

For instance, I was in a store when there was this Chinese guy who came to me to ask to translate the words in his list of items. I helped him and returned to my own search. Then later on, he came to me again to ask some more, in which I helped him again. It appeared he wasn't very good in speaking in English or my language for that matter, and he basically just showed me the Instagram logo in his phone and asked me if I have one. I really find it so weird! This and many more.

Is it really so hard to ask someone her name (with NO whistling or catcalling involved)? Write poems or give her a flower to show her you're interested? Does it really always have to be a direct question inquiring of her social media account? Girls, back me up here. Seriously, is it really so much to ask for this?

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PoetryNEmotion · F

Only men of a certain age and status and morale know how to romance. They embody chivalry. Many younger men have no clue. Their heads are bent into their cells. It is shameful, really. Social media is rude, abrupt, and unsatisfying. I suggest you look into areas where young men are more olden. Think of hobbies. Perhaps writing clubs. Book stores. Join meetup.com. It has another name now. Some things or places more traditional. Tell people what you want. What you expect. Set standards. Ask these inadequate people-how do you think this reflects upon you? When you just ask for an account? Do you know what women want? Attention. Flowers. A date during which fun is had. No instant sex. No deep throating. Tradition. Wooing. Romance. Why don't they follow older men who know how to treat ladies? They need examples. Stick to what you desire. If a man doesn't date well, he will not live well with you. Make realistic, high standards. The real love of yours will match them. He will never stop trying as you will always try to please your love too. It is mutual, this romance and wooing. If not, move on. Let them eat like pigs at a trough of common.

Casheyane · F

@PoetryNEmotion I love this haha. I honestly think it's because these guys lack example, so they don't know how it should be done.

PoetryNEmotion · F

@Casheyane Yes. That is one reason. Even seduction is a lost art. Real women know how to seduce a man they love. A worthy man. Younger people are mostly lost. They figure jumping into bed is the best way. Everything that leads up to intimacy is foreplay. Words. Actions. Looks. It is a dance of love. Not a cell with a dick or breast shot.

BarefootedBoy · 56-60, M

Ah, to meet a woman who thinks like you do. I seem to attract the ones who are married to their phones, or who are church lady types, or who giggle at everything as if they're 12.

PoetryNEmotion · F

@BarefootedBoy Thanks. You need to look elsewhere. Try new ideas. Listen, women are trying to navigate this complicated, new world too. Keep looking. Never give up. And you can follow my same advice as a man.

Casheyane · F

@PoetryNEmotion XD

BarefootedBoy · 56-60, M

@PoetryNEmotion Not even sure where to meet anyone anymore.

PoetryNEmotion · F

@BarefootedBoy Think outside the box. Or advertise. I cannot find a FWB even. All fakes. All fools. I wait for this wonderful man that I have loved for years to come to me this year. He is well worth the wait.

BarefootedBoy · 56-60, M

@PoetryNEmotion I've tried the personal ads and online stuff. It's weird who I attract on there.

PoetryNEmotion · F

@BarefootedBoy Your one true love is still searching for you. Would you deny her your love? No excuses.

BarefootedBoy · 56-60, M

@PoetryNEmotion I would not. But I do not think I have encountered her yet.