FOUR23RD · M
numbers are use only on mathematics equations and business , not to be applied on measuring the likeness on 2 opposite sex individuals. i agree with you just numbers
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IAmJess · 22-25, F
@FOUR23RD Sorry, no, not at all. But nice try.
Everyone is entitled to their preferences. If you preferred blondes, I would not call you prejudicial or disrespectful. I might roll my eyes at you, but your preferences are yours and yours alone.
All I am saying here is that I find it silly, based on my (obvious) preferences, that Arie pretended for so long to be seriously interested in Bekah. She's gorgeous for sure, but she and he were very obviously in very different places in life and had no shot. If you watch the show, then you now know that I've been proven right in this case.
Everyone is entitled to their preferences. If you preferred blondes, I would not call you prejudicial or disrespectful. I might roll my eyes at you, but your preferences are yours and yours alone.
All I am saying here is that I find it silly, based on my (obvious) preferences, that Arie pretended for so long to be seriously interested in Bekah. She's gorgeous for sure, but she and he were very obviously in very different places in life and had no shot. If you watch the show, then you now know that I've been proven right in this case.
Nat15 · F
I don't think age matters as long as you have common goals and stuff. I think the younger person has to be more mature than their age and the older one has to still be young at heart.
Btw, that girl is cuuuuute! <3
Btw, that girl is cuuuuute! <3
lesbgirl · 26-30, F
Age doesn’t matter when there is chemistry and both partners are mature enough to decide for themselves
IAmJess · 22-25, F
I'm not going to quote the things you've told me in private but before you go quoting bible stuff at me, you should sit with a priest or minister or someone and talk with them about the stuff you've told me.
Whether I'm dating anyone or not, guy or girl, is quite literally none of your fucking business.
You've twice now called me promiscuous when that could not be further from the truth. Now you throw all this bible stuff in my face! You need to seriously spend some time cleaning up your own personal life before you start attacking other people.
Just go away.
Whether I'm dating anyone or not, guy or girl, is quite literally none of your fucking business.
You've twice now called me promiscuous when that could not be further from the truth. Now you throw all this bible stuff in my face! You need to seriously spend some time cleaning up your own personal life before you start attacking other people.
Just go away.
Mysteriousliaisons · 56-60, M
Closer in age offers more in common I think ☺
plus enter the fact of aging ,may not such a big difference now but what about when she’s 36 and he’s 50 🤔
plus enter the fact of aging ,may not such a big difference now but what about when she’s 36 and he’s 50 🤔
Miram · 31-35, F
Most 21 somethings are still teens. But I think it's then when many start an independent life and therefore should be accountable for their own decisions.
I am not comfortable with most age gap relationships because I usually can see manipulative patterns. One personality, needs and future plans overriding the other and it's usually the one who has most experience in relationships.
But in the western context, people have access to resources that can help them break away from abuse.
That is not the case in some eastern societies. Once you choose to marry the wrong guy, you are better off dead and you will wish death multiple times. You will lose everything , dignity and individualism included.
I am not comfortable with most age gap relationships because I usually can see manipulative patterns. One personality, needs and future plans overriding the other and it's usually the one who has most experience in relationships.
But in the western context, people have access to resources that can help them break away from abuse.
That is not the case in some eastern societies. Once you choose to marry the wrong guy, you are better off dead and you will wish death multiple times. You will lose everything , dignity and individualism included.
RoxClymer · 41-45, M
at your age yes age matters more, at least it did to me when I was that age because So many things happen around your age, driving, graduating, voting, drinking, becoming legally an adult.
when you get to even my age you have experienced all that, everyone has, and things aren't so tied to your age, making age a less important factor
when you get to even my age you have experienced all that, everyone has, and things aren't so tied to your age, making age a less important factor
RoxClymer · 41-45, M
an example- because of my medical issues, I was making life sustaining/altering decisions by the time I was 16, by the time I was 22 I had moved 5,000 miles away from Home, by 25 I was in a career a by 30 was back making life altering decisions because a dr almost killed me
you can do a lot of living in a relatively short time
you can do a lot of living in a relatively short time
Sithlizard · 51-55, M
It depends on the individuals. I dated someone that was 24 years younger than me, and she had more maturity than some of the women I dated that were my age.
TightyWhiteyKing · 26-30, M
I think after 21 it doesn't matter. Personally unless your with a lover and you "celebrate"
mathsman · 70-79, M
Ah. 14 years at that age seems significant.
But many years on, it matters so much less
But many years on, it matters so much less
MikeSp · 56-60, M
A fascinating story is when the inventor of the Nautilus Machines married a girl 37 years younger than he. On Feb. 24, 1981, Arthur Jones took Terri Brantner as his bride in a spur-of-the-moment ceremony at a Las Vegas wedding chapel. She was 18. He was 55. They went on to develop an upscale residential airpark called Jumbolair near Ocala, FL. They divorced after 8 years.
ticklerguy · M
Love and friendship Know No Age
IAmJess · 22-25, F
@ticklerguy To some people...
BiasForAction · M
14 is not so large of a gap
IAmJess · 22-25, F
@BiasForAction I think it depends where you are, right?
I mean 30 and 44 might not be such a big gap. But I just turned 18 a couple weeks ago. Dating someone 32 would be crazy.
I mean 30 and 44 might not be such a big gap. But I just turned 18 a couple weeks ago. Dating someone 32 would be crazy.
BiasForAction · M
I was assuming over 25
IAmJess · 22-25, F
@BiasForAction But on the show the girl is 22. I think that's still maybe a bit young to be going for a 14 year gap!
CopperCicada · M
The whole Bachelor thing is pretty depraved regardless of the age difference.
CopperCicada · M
@Miram How could providing a random dude with a Whitman Sampler of women and putting the act of him sampling and finding his favorite girl-candy on TV be degrading? I just can't see it. meditates deeply
IAmJess · 22-25, F
@CopperCicada Lol, yup.
MikeSp · 56-60, M
I don't watch the show, but damn, she is a pretty girl.
I think the age gap is less important than the maturity of both people. I've known several gapped couples and they are still together.
A belated Happy Birthday to you.
I think the age gap is less important than the maturity of both people. I've known several gapped couples and they are still together.
A belated Happy Birthday to you.
Goldengirl22 · F
I feel like today that's normal. I wouldn't at 22 because for me I wouldn't be comfortable with it and my dad would kick my ass grown or not lol but everyone's different I guess. As long as your happy?
IAmJess · 22-25, F
@Goldengirl22 Omg yeah, I didn't even think about my dad when I posted this. If I came home with someone 14 years older than me, my dad would not only kick my ass but the guy's too!
downunderguy · M
I think it really depends on the individuals. Some girls are mature at 22 and ready to settle down. Just because there is an age gap doesn't mean people are being manipulated
IAmJess · 22-25, F
@downunderguy Have you seen the show? Do you think Bekah is ready to settle down?? 😂😂😂 Don't get me wrong, love the girl and totally on Team Bekah, but she's not settling down any time soon.
Rutterman · 46-50, M
If they're both comfortable with the age gap, then it's fine. They are adults, after all.
Rutterman · 46-50, M
@IAmJess That's fine, but I've noticed people mostly have a problem with it when it's an older man and a younger woman. When it's the opposite arrangement, there seems to be little criticism of it. Not sure what accounts for this double standard. Please understand that I'm not suggesting you're guilty of this. It's just a general observation.
IAmJess · 22-25, F
@Rutterman Hmm, can't say that I've noticed the double standard myself. I will say that, personally, I think the older woman/younger guy thing is even more absurd. We have one neighbor here who is divorced and she is dating a guy who is literally younger than her son. I don't get it. Idk, maybe someday I will. Right now I just can't see it.
drymer · 56-60, M
To each their own... I don't get why people get so outraged when "others" are in relationships with big age gaps... I get that some people freak out at the thought of *themselves* dating someone with a big age difference, but why do they care about other's adult, consensual relationships... Some people like same sex, other people are grossed out by the thought of a same sex relationship... Yet, no one these days would DARE to say the feel grossed out by the idea of a "same sex" relationship... But it seems to be OK to voice displeasure and total outrage at big age-gap relationships... ? Why...? Why do people care, really...?
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IAmJess · 22-25, F
@drymer Pretty sure I didn't express any outrage here and I certainly didn't say anything about being grossed out (I'm not).
I simply said that in my opinion their "relationship" was silly and asked for other opinions.
And btw, yes, I have heard LGBTQ stuff referred to as gross before.
I simply said that in my opinion their "relationship" was silly and asked for other opinions.
And btw, yes, I have heard LGBTQ stuff referred to as gross before.

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@IAmJess yes and 17 yrs younger.
IAmJess · 22-25, F
@SW-User How old were you when you dated the 15+ year older person? And how old were you when you dated the 17 year younger person?
I'm just trying to make sense of all this.
I'm just trying to make sense of all this.

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@IAmJess 20 for the older one and 38 for the younger.
FOUR23RD · M
numbers are for measurements for value informative matters
bijouxbroussard · F
There are people who would get involved with minors if they didn’t have to worry about the law. So they pat themselves on the back for waiting until she’s 18 or 21.
Miram · 31-35, F
@bijouxbroussard
Many find an excuse in limiting the definition of right and wrong to terms of legal and illegal.
Many find an excuse in limiting the definition of right and wrong to terms of legal and illegal.
IAmJess · 22-25, F
@bijouxbroussard I think you are 100% right in that. So sad.
sighmeupforthat · 46-50, M
with all this love talk then suddenly people filter it out with nonsense.
the world doesn't want love it wants to be a jerkola.
priorities.
the world doesn't want love it wants to be a jerkola.
priorities.
mathsman · 70-79, M
Depends
Goralski · 56-60, M
Hmmmmmm or like d movie hard candy
Chickie · F
It doesn't matter they are both adults people should mind their business
th3r0n · 41-45, M
Well you already know this but I really like younger women lol
sighmeupforthat · 46-50, M
so?
it won't work out not because of age but he's a neurotic pos.
it won't work out not because of age but he's a neurotic pos.
IAmJess · 22-25, F
@sighmeupforthat Lol yeah, well that certainly appears true as well! 😂