Only logged in members can reply and interact with the post.
Join Similar Worlds today »

I Have Too Much Empathy and Guilt

[c=#7700B2]I don't know what is going on with me lately.
I have always had a difficult time getting the thoughts out of my head and sound like they are in my head. I don't know if that makes sense to anyone but it is like having the perfect words in your head and when I try saying or writing it out load, it all comes out like a jumbled mess..

anyway I am only saying that part to get out what I am trying to write and hope it comes out the way I want It too and if it doesn't make much sense, that is the reason why..

For as long as I remember I have always had so much empathy towards people, like if I see someone upset, I would get upset and things like that.. lately though it has been like something has changed in me and that doesn't happen anymore, I mean it does with people I care about but before I would be like that with strangers and I feel that is a reason why I am pretty good at my job because I could relate somewhat and be very empathetic.
It is like a switch inside of me has been turned off lately and I just don't care anymore and just cant relate to people in a way I felt I could before and I want to say I feel bad because of that and know I should.. but I don't

hopefully it is just some sort of hormonal thing and goes away and I can go back to being myself again but it is also nice not to care for a change and I feel lighter in a way..

Anyone go through something like this before?[/c]
GerOttman · 61-69, M
I mostly have a problem with people trying to finish sentences for me or trying to talk over top of me. I think I put too much in front of what I'm trying to say, so it takes longer to get to the point. On the other hand, if I put the main point in front others ask a bunch of questions or raise objections which I've already thought through. Many times I just shut up and do what I want, then they think I'm unsocial or acting out of turn. Social complexities are frustrating to me. I'm a mechanic at heart, just give me a wrench and I'll fix it if you stay the heck out of my way and stop telling things I already know... But I get your situation in a way. It's ok to care about others, just don't let it stop you from living your life the way you choose.
PlumBerries · 26-30, F
[@755518,GerOttman] [c=#7700B2]haha sounds like you think about this just a tad lol[/c]
GerOttman · 61-69, M
[@10586,PlumBerries] I'm feeling better now. I've had my coffee and taken my pill...
PlumBerries · 26-30, F
[@755518,GerOttman] [c=#7700B2]sounds like my mornings [/c]
SW User
I can definitely relate with the difficulty in communicating what is going on inside my head. Most of the time because I can't really comprehend what is going on in the first place.

Hope everything is okay. Do you ever feel like you're not getting as much as you give when it comes to people? I used to talk to someone that described a similar feeling and they said that when they would go through their own struggles part of them would feel like they just want people to feel for and worry about them the way they do for others.
PlumBerries · 26-30, F
[@897843,NoxDivina] [c=#7700B2]yeah it gets pretty rough and draining but still better compared to focusing on my own stuff..
thank you again and I am hoping so also :)[/c]
SW User
[@10586,PlumBerries] I'm sure it all provides a good distraction. But on the days it doesn't...I suppose you could let me have a go at being the distraction.
PlumBerries · 26-30, F
[@897843,NoxDivina] [c=#7700B2]you are always a amazing distraction 🤗[/c]
JS1992 · 26-30, M
I get frustrated with something like this. My mind is very active and it’s hard to talk what is on my mind. The words never want to come out right and I feel stupid when having conversations with others.
JS1992 · 26-30, M
Yah! Good idea with the mirror [@10586,PlumBerries]
PlumBerries · 26-30, F
[@404217,JS1992] [c=#7700B2]thanks, it doesn't help much though lol[/c]
JS1992 · 26-30, M
Hey I will try anything lol. [@10586,PlumBerries]
Diamonddog · 26-30, M
I've had that happen also in the last couple of years. I'm not sure if it's just a symptom of maturity, like you still care but you're not as emotionally reactive as you were and don't really 'feel' it like before.
PlumBerries · 26-30, F
[@877165,Chaoticneutral] [c=#7700B2]yeah still care but not close to the amount previously cared[/c]
Diamonddog · 26-30, M
[@10586,PlumBerries] https://similarworlds.com/6314366-I-Dont-Know-How-to-Break-Down-My-Defensive-Wall/2605665-Its-rare-that-I-actually-have-anything-serious-to
I literally posted about the same thing.

I know when I was worried that what comforted me was that in some moments such as remembering a very emotional memory or relationship i'd feel something like I did then, so it's still there but we're just a lot more in control. Maybe this is the process of learning that control.
MrsKatherineArch · 36-40, F
Oh yes. It’s nice to be empathetic, but it can be super annoying too.
PlumBerries · 26-30, F
[@186368,MrsKatherineArch] [c=#7700B2]they do screw things up at times [/c]
MrsKatherineArch · 36-40, F
Estrogen is a B***h [@10586,PlumBerries]
PlumBerries · 26-30, F
[@186368,MrsKatherineArch] [c=#7700B2]true that lol[/c]
MrBrownstone · 41-45, M
Dyslexia?
MrBrownstone · 41-45, M
[@10586,PlumBerries] I do that too sometimes.
PlumBerries · 26-30, F
[@1149,MrBrownstone] [c=#7700B2]yeah? I didn't realise so many people also go through it[/c]
MrBrownstone · 41-45, M
[@10586,PlumBerries] I do it around attractive women.
Zonuss · 41-45, M
It means you're just human..

 
Post Comment
 
2 people following
I Have Too Much Empathy and Guilt
Personal Stories, Advice, and Support
Group Members