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I Need Dating Advice

Tinder Date
I’ve been talking to this guy, Michael. We clicked instantly, he thought I was funny and cute so we exchanged numbers to continue talking. By the third day, we’d spoken on the phone, and he (jokingly?) mentioned moving with me when I leave the state in August. But I don't think he was kidding. At first, I wasn't looking for anything serious. I just wanted to experiment and stay single. But within a week of talking to him, I deleted Tinder and stopped talking to other people. It came out of nowhere, and I knew I wanted him in my life. It's only been two weeks and I already really really like him. He's busy a lot of the time, working mostly. I find myself thinking ”I hope he's having a good day at work” and stuff like that a lot. For the past week, he's called me after work every day. It's so cute, he really likes talking to me I guess. 😊 I really like talking to him, too. But I’m moving in five months. I don't know if he was serious or not. How do I ask something like that? Should I wait until the month before I move, or should I just ask in a month or so after he asks me out? If he asks me out... I think he will. He says he really likes me. Also, he doesn't flirt with me as much as I flirt with him. Sometimes it makes me question whether he really likes me as much as he is saying he does. Maybe he's just awkward about that stuff or not used to the compliments so he doesn't flirt back as much as I wish he would... I don't know how to bring that up either.
Tinder? Three chats and moving in together? Stop. Think with your brains. He is not into you. Get off Tinder. Reality check.
flowerboy · 22-25, T
@PoetryNEmotion He knows about my ex and some of what she did to me. I haven't told him too much about it because I’m afraid he isn't ready for this level of broken. But he is so patient and sweet and gentle about it. I'm just terrified that he could hurt me the more I open up
@flowerboy You have to trust people at some point. That is how you make friends. And how you make relationships work. Broken. Foolish words. You are not a tea cup. You have been hurt. That is fixable. He likes you and has heard a bit and-look-he is still around. I gotta go. I hope my words were helpful. We can talk later. Just breathe deeply. Be you. And go slowly. You will do just fine.
flowerboy · 22-25, T
@PoetryNEmotion Thank you, I will do my best
smileylovesgaming · 31-35, F
I would be very careful with this. There is a lot of fake people on dating site's.
flowerboy · 22-25, T
@smileylovesgaming I’ve video chatted with him, called on the phone, I just have to meet him still. I know he is a real person and not a creepy old guy pretending to be a young man 😂 But I still don't think I should move in with him so soon. I just want to know if he's serious ig
smileylovesgaming · 31-35, F
@flowerboy does he live close by. You could drive or fly to see him for a weekend
flowerboy · 22-25, T
@smileylovesgaming Two hours away. We’ll be meeting next time he has a day off
Indy74 · 46-50, F
If I were you, I would begin taking it nice and slow. You don't want to get hurt. You should just nonchalantly ask him if he is serious about moving with you. Plus, you hardly know each other and it's best for you to make sure he is legit.
Indy74 · 46-50, F
@flowerboy all I want to say is just be careful with your heart. Make sure he has good intentions. Good luck to you my friend!🤗
flowerboy · 22-25, T
@Indy74 I will, trust me. I'm terrified of getting broken again. Thank you for your advice ❤️
Indy74 · 46-50, F
@flowerboy my pleasure. You always have a friend here.☺
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flowerboy · 22-25, T
@waleskinder I mean on some level, I guess. Then again, when we talked for barely 3 days he already mentioned moving in with me! I don’t think I’m cool with that at 5 months of knowing him. Maybe a few more months at least, if he can show me he feels the same way about me. Then again, that’s not likely.
BellaLocura · 51-55, F
Your ego will tell you that this person will “complete” you and “make you happy”...enjoy the ride, but don’t put ALL of your attention into this.

It’s so easy to get infatuated, only to be disappointed when the real human appears and isn’t what our ego mind pictured.
flowerboy · 22-25, T
@BellaLocura Ego means self-confidence, which I have none. All my ”ego” tells me is that I am fat and ugly and always will be even if I lose enough weight and get a new face. I could give you a thousand reasons I HATE myself. And want to fucking die. The ONLY reason I am alive is my baby sister. She's tried to kill herself before too and I'm only here to keep her here. Nothing will make me happy I already know that. I feel happy at church, I feel happy when I talk to Michael, I feel happy when I'm crossfaded, I feel happy when I’m high and that's it. I'm not truly happy because that's not me, I never can be. No, he won't complete me. Even if he is perfect, I am 100% going to push him away eventually. But I can't bring myself to cut him off yet. No, it's going to hurt for both of us if he lets me get close. I never do anything right. So don't you fucking worry about my ego, I want to fucking die lol.
BellaLocura · 51-55, F
That part of you telling you that you are fat, ugly, “less than”...that is all coming from your ego mind. Look up any work by Eckhart Tolle...his work will change your life.@flowerboy
flowerboy · 22-25, T
@BellaLocura My ego mind would come out of my body and strangle me if it could.
4meAndyou · F
You are very young, and thinking about your crush as often as you do is perfectly normal. You might find that he was joking when he said he would move with you, as people almost never just meet and offer to move with you.

If he isn't flirty, that is just him, and either you like him, or you don't.
flowerboy · 22-25, T
@4meAndyou It's too soon to know, maybe he isn't flirty, but I do want to know how he feels. I do like him, and as previously stated, I am NOT moving in with him until after at least ten months of DATING. Preferably a year of knowing him
Byron8by7 · M
Don't even begin to think about doing anything with him until you meet him in person. It is preposterous to think about moving in at this point.
flowerboy · 22-25, T
@Byron8by7 It’s like nobody listens when I keep telling them I don't plan on moving in that soon. It is crazy 😂
Byron8by7 · M
@flowerboy Take it slowly.
flowerboy · 22-25, T
@Byron8by7 I aM tAkInG iT sLoW
booboo · M
most men have no idea how to flirt..or are clueless when a woman is flirting with them... take your time...if it's meant to be, it will be...relax and enjoy the ride
flowerboy · 22-25, T
@booboo He's gay. We're both guys. Lol. He knows I’m flirting, and he usually just says I’m sweet and that I’m making him smile, etc. But doesn't really flirt back or compliment me back. Unless I send a selfie, he does compliment me then. Usually
SW-User
It’s all good but don’t move in with anyone so soon. Be careful. Get to know him in person first.
flowerboy · 22-25, T
@SW-User I plan on that. Along with seeing if he still wants to be with me when I have moved, and making him wait. Maybe another five or so months after August. Depending on how things go.
SW-User
I’m glad. Good thinking. Good luck :)@flowerboy
billstickers · 36-40, M
Text him i am moving so Michael row your boat ashore.
flowerboy · 22-25, T
@billstickers Is that a song? Lmao
billstickers · 36-40, M
@flowerboy yes google it

 
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