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I Was Shocked

I overheard my dad talking to my mom. He told her that if my sister (who's Jewish) married a Christian, he would basically shun her. I think he means it. He's very serious about us marrying within the Jewish religion. He's worried if we'll have kids, we won't raise them Jewish. I knew he felt strongly about marrying Jews but I didn't think he would go so far as to say we'll be dead to him if we do. I see things from his perspective in which a lot of religious people feel the same way. But he should also be thinking about [i]our[/i] happiness. This guy my sister is seeing makes her happy. When my mom wanted to talk to him more about it, he had a tantrum and went into his room saying he doesn't want to talk about it anymore and slammed the door like a child. I'm not saying they'll last in the long run but they both deeply care about each other. He goes and says that my mom is "encouraging" this. All she's encouraging is my sister's happiness. The only thing that would disappoint my mom is if we converted out of the religion which we told her will never happen. What's your opinion on this?

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SW-User

I think you need to seek the truth. The truth is religion is one of the things that is ruining our world and tearing us all apart. Don't convert to another religion but you need to seriously consider rejecting that one. Not a single one is based in any truth at all.

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SW-User

@JewStar4Life: You said it "cult" That's exactly what they are. There are so many researchers out there who have been at it for years and they have learned a lot of things that our parents didn't know. I explained all this to my Mother and guided her to some great documentaries on youtube lol . But hey I've learned so much from watching documentaries. I watched several today about religion and what these guys learned from archeological digs. They have learned that the stories just aren't true they don't match the archeology.

JewStar4Life · 31-35, F

@grandaddypurple: I think it's more important to focus on the actions [i]you[/i] take than what the rest of the world does.

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@JewStar4Life: Yes your own actions are very important. But I think we as a society must leave these old beliefs behind. Otherwise these people are going to end up destroying the world. Just like you described your Father. My Brother acts the same way, you can't reason with them. It's frustrating to such a degree ,like I said I can't stand to be around them anymore. It's a shame .

samueltyler2 · 80-89, M

This is a very difficult issue. There is a lot written about the loss of religion, all "standard religion" because of assimilation. The "shunning" may even occur within the religion when one marries another within the religion, but considered less religion. It is also said that mellenials are more spiritual but do not join congregations, regardless of which religion. This will also threaten organized religion.

Everyone must sit and discuss his issue, BEFORE things get too complicated.

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samueltyler2 · 80-89, M

You need to find an intermediary who might be able to work to have yur father accept the fact that he will still love his children and will hurt himself by "shunning."

JewStar4Life · 31-35, F

@samueltyler2: Yeah. I would think if he truly loved us, he would want us to be happy in any way we want to be. One time, I asked my mom that if my dad wasn't Jewish if she would have still married him and she said yes. She loves him that much. I asked my dad the same question and he said no. That to me seems like conditional love.

samueltyler2 · 80-89, M

I wish I could continue to chat, but I am exhausted and need to go to sleep. Read Herman Wouk's book "this is my God".

pearllederman · 61-69, F

i grew up in a jewish home myself, the only one that got married was my brother but his wife is jewish too, my parents never talked that way but if they did i would probably do it on purpose just to tick them off