I Have Something to Say

@Bleedingheart11: Out of curiosity, how/ why were you & your husband no longer able to make each other happy? Did HE change? Did YOU change? Did y’all no longer have the same goals? Did something actually HAPPEN? Or did you or him simply “fall OUT of Love”? I’m curious about that. My wife & I have been separated for over 10 months. And, based on her comments, I’m wondering not only IF she STILL loves me, but whether she EVER DID love me?? So, I’m curious as to HOW one gets to that point of not being able to make their spouse happy? That the love is no longer there?? I would appreciate any insight that you could give me. Thanks.

I really can’t say that there was any one particular incident that changed everything. It was more like a wedge that was so slowly dividing us, that it took years before I even noticed it. And when I finally did notice it, it was too late. There was no communication between us. He was an emotional void. In the end, he told me that he couldn’t understand why I wanted a divorce. After all, he had bought and given me everything a girl could possibly want. I said, yes, you’ve given me everything material that a girl could want. But what I needed from you wasn’t material. And you couldn’t give me what I need. You can message me if you’d like and I’ll try to explain it better. @RemovedUsername329422

@PrivateHell: Thanks. But (as they say) it is what it IS. Would do almost anything for her to come back. Been over 10 months. Told me yesterday that she’s put in a bid on a house. When she first left, she was staying with her mother. The last 3 months she’s been renting a house. Now she’s trying to BUY a house. Guess there’s no coming back now. Seems like things have just “slipped away”. Crazy thing is that we almost got back together in late July. Well, that’s what she says NOW at least!?!? Who knows if it was real??

@RemovedUsername329422 that's messed up.

@PrivateHell: All I can say to you is this. If you truly LOVE HER, then do something to reverse the trend. Take her on an actual “date”. Go on a romantic vacation. Make sure that she knows (and I mean KNOWS down to her core) that you LOVE HER & want to spend the rest of your life with her. And here’s the tricky part. Try to steer her away from the downward spiral in a NONACCUSATORY manner. If she thinks that you’re placing ANY “blame” on her?? It will NOT turn out good. NOT AT ALL. But, please see what you can do to ease her back into being “engaged” in the relationship. Do NOT wait until it’s too late & she’s about to walk out the door. Good luck. I wish you all the BEST.

@Atrandom just venting. Not a good night tonight.

@PrivateHell yeah better just focus on other matters that make you happy, it's good to care about oneself, as an individual..

@SW-User I try. Just get down and lonely sometimes.

@PrivateHell good that you can express yourself. Maybe helps you a bit.