We're you bullied in school? What was the worst advice you got about bullying?

I wouldn't say I was bullied-bullied, but I think the shittiest thing my school did in regard to bullying was define the term so such that the one doing the bullying must be more powerful than the victim. Like, the point of bullying is to feel powerful by making the victim feel weak; those morons were playing right into the bullies' hands. Besides, you don't have to actually be tougher to ruin someone's day; you just have to care less about getting in trouble and shit.

"Don't hit him back, or you'll get in trouble too", by my dad.

He was half my size and he continued to hit me in our school bus, even in the front, near the driver. The driver even asked me why I wasn't retaliating. He pushed me to a point where I bled from my hand because of a cut on a metal seat and then I beat him till he nearly fainted. No one breathed a word, he didn't come to school for a week after that

I faced bullies, never cared how big, fit or popular they were. I was like a vicious cat your rub me the wrong way and I would tear your eyes out. I never showed fear and I was pretty good with my mouth too.
Nobody could put me in a corner, I was voluble and ready at all times

Tell the teacher. Honestly tried it for 10 years straight. Guess what? My teachers gave less than a shit. What they will pay attention to is if you snap and start kicking the bully’s teeth in or slit your wrists.

It's been a long time since I have been out of school, but some of the bullying I endured in my preteen years really made an impression that stuck with me for a long time. Sadly, I was already abused at home and had no voice in school. It was truly horrible. I do know that none of us would have thought to tell a teacher or even our parents because we already knew the general advice given back then was to "ignore" it. I really tried and the more I did, the more a handful of girls taunted me. I hated school and it stopped me from doing a lot of things socially.

Fast forward to when I had my kids and came to learn they both had incidents of bullying. I nipped in right in the bud the moment I learned of it. My daughter went on to have a great time in school and did very well. My son was not so lucky. He was especially bullied to the extreme. He had autism and he was smaller than the other boys. These kids would literally hit him as he would be leaving to go home. I was doing all I could to inform his teachers and the school guidance counselor of the problem, hoping they would work with the kid's parents to get it to stop. It never did. Then one day my son finally swung back after a kid hit him in the back of the head while he was as his locker. Sounds like a small victory until I found out he was suspended for swinging back! That was the end of that for me! I went after the school district and they finally allowed him to go to a better school in their district. Sadly the damage was done and my son never was able to bounce back and finish traditional high school. He did get his GED though, scoring in the top 98%!

My advice to parents with this issue? Teach them self worth from day one and take anything they tell you seriously. Never tell them to just "ignore" it because they can't. And do not count on a school district being much help if the bullying is still continuing after you have notified them. Bullying really is no small matter.

No one ever tried to bully me.I did get into fights,one time when I was 14 a 17 year guy asked me if I was pregnant as well because I was walking about with my feet bare,and no I did not let him get away with it,I beat him in a fight in the school gym in front of my and his friends,and broke 2 of his ribs with a scissors hold between my thighs,he passed out.When I was 16 I badly scratched a guy's face in the Library,he was bleeding,and another time when I was 16 also in the Library during a fight with a guy I pushed him backwards into a metal stanchion roof support,then pulled him forward and slammed him into to stanchion harder to finish him off.
I'm very anti bully and protective of my friends.Advice about telling a teacher is no good when someone is hitting you.I prefer a direct approach that also teaches others to never do it again.

I was bullied and later on became one. Glad that phase has long passed.

But the only true way to handle a bully is to respond with an action so crazy that they think twice like grabbing a fire extinguisher and preparing to swing it in their direction or pull the pin and douse them in the fire retardant powder.

I wasn't really ever bullied - or what I'd consider being bullied. Maybe today it would be. There were spats and some kids were perpetually mean - and mean to everyone. Seemed to take pride in hurting feelings and being a douche. But we all suffered it in one form or another. No one got out unscathed. We learned when it was prudent to walk away and when it was just time to knock the sh*t out of someone. I don't recall ever getting advice from anyone because we didn't say anything, we took care of it ourselves. 🤷‍♀️

I was, and for the longest time I didn’t fight back. I attended parochial schools. The first one was in the city. It was diverse racially, although some of the nuns were biased against those of us who weren’t white. A boy who I liked very much would stop others from bullying the other kids, he protected me on many occasions. One kid was really bad about picking on the smallest kids—a real coward, because when our friend stopped him [b]he[/b] went crying to the nuns, and our friend was paddled in front of the class. It didn’t matter how many of us protested and told the adults that the [b]other[/b] boy had been the bully, and our friend had just stopped him. Our friend was stoic, didn’t cry—but several of us did. We were threatened with punishment for crying. It was the most unjust situation I’d ever seen at that point.
I was little, wore glasses and was biracial in the 60s. Not as obviously so as my middle sister, who has lighter skin and green eyes, but it made me a target of both white and black kids.
By jr high school I’d had enough and when a girl attacked me because a boy had said I was “pretty”, I fought back. And all I know was that when the lay teacher separated us, she had a black eye and loose front teeth. And the sad thing was, [b]that[/b] was what finally worked. Not going to the teacher, the nuns, my parents or anything else. Nobody else bothered me.

My little brother, who was in grade school, was being bullied by a middle school student when he would wait at the bus stop. I was in high school and called up the kid in middle school and warned him that if he didnt leave my little brother alone that I and my friends would be greeting him on his first day of high school. He never pestered my brother again.

No one ever gave me advice on the subject. I didn't know there were answer. I just took it.

My family moved to the town in 1989. It was a new town, new school, new start. To say that bullying was rampant was an understatement. If you didn't want to be bullied you joined in on bullying someone else. And sadly I joined in on that too. First time was the last for me. There was a kid they called 'One Hundred Ring holes.' I thought it was a fun name. He kicked the shit out of me. I was 7 and he was 13.
When I found out the history behind the, 'One Hundred Ring holes.' I would have gladly taken a thousand beatings.
I never bullied anyone ever again. Didn't bite when I was bullied. Losing a fight meant my brothers would beat me up to for losing. Then they'd go after the older brothers of the people who beat me up. If they didn't have older brothers. The fathers copped it instead.
It didn't take long before people stopped trying to beat me up.. Though I never did discover a way to stop them from verbally abusing me.

No. I was lucky to have a [i]cool[/i] older sibling.

I hate bullies . I’d bully them on the behalf of whatever poor person they were picking on at times. Even as an adult I’ve had people try to alpha me down.
I think not.

Ignore them they will get tired and stop. That's a big pile of 💩

just tell an adult (who did nothing) then when the bully finds out you told on them they come at you worse and for me it was sexual bullying

I’ll be hated for this: teach you’re child the manipulative skills to handle it

My mum bullied me though but that's an abuse story for another day

I was bullied and abused at home not in school. I tell my son not to let anyone hurt him. To look them right in the eye and warn them off.

Actually, I should have added to my post that there is a very good book about bullying and how to handle it.

[i]Take The Bully By The Horns[/i]
by Sam Horn

Not really. Just normal senseless antagonism from public school dumpster babies.

LOL nope, I knew the genitals of almost every single student.

Don't hit them back, just tell an adult.

Yeah, that isn't how it ever worked.