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I Need Closure

No you dont need closure. People live in an illusion that closure will help them move on. It does not. It is nonsense. Closure does not change the outcome of the situation. It is the "situation" breakup, death whatever that causes the pain and having closure is not going to change that .

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Magenta · F

Excellent point! :-) I often wonder if those whom parrot popular idioms and cliche's... have truly suffered, or had great loss(es).

I actually abhor the sayings.. "letting go"/"moving on"/"getting over"... Is that what love is to so many? I personally can not dictate and manipulate love within my heart like that.

softspokenman · M

Empathy is the ability to feel another persons pain. Some people experience bitterness when they grieve over the loss of someone they love. We never get over it. Over time we learn to live with the pain and it becomes less overwhelming, most of the time, and we begin to function again. But we never get over it. *We never forget them.

CheerfullyCurious · 46-50, F

@softspokenman i agree 100% . It is really hard to loose someone. Sorry for your loss. In this post i just wanted to differentiate between "closure" and loss/pain.
The pain go on even when closure is found. People hold on and dont move on because they think closure will make the pain go away but it does not.

Starcrossed · 41-45, F

I feel like closure is the final step you take when accepting an experience is over. Finding closure [i]is[/i] moving on, it isn't something that happens [i]then[/i] you can move on. If you find closure, you have moved on.

CheerfullyCurious · 46-50, F

That is a real nice way of seeing it. @Starcrossed

Elegy · 46-50

It helps some people, that is unarguable but... I personally don't need it. I'm fine with moving on. You don't always get butt to the knee... or something like that.

CheerfullyCurious · 46-50, F

I can see in certain cases - for example a suicide - if there is a letter that explains it then it may be easier to accept rhe death , but still even so - it does not heal you . The pain continues even when you get closure. It wont take the pain away .but this whole idea of "closure" just prevent people from moving on. @Elegy

Elegy · 46-50

Some people need that, they need it because those are just the parameters their reality goes by. No one else gets to dictate that. :/

allsfinebime2 · M

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questionWeaver

Interesting .... makes sense

CheerfullyCurious · 46-50, F

People get obsessed about the "closure" idea. They tell themself only if i can have closure then i will feel better but what is the point? It keeps you from moving forward. It stagnates you - having closure is not going to bring someone back to you. I think the illusion is : "if i understand it i can fix it" , but that is not always the case. The loss and the pain will still be there even when you understand it. @questionWeaver

allsfinebime2 · M

@CheerfullyCurious Exactly

questionWeaver

@CheerfullyCurious makes sense ...

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