forgiveness is not always a gift you give to the person who wronged you, sometimes its just something you do for yourself to free your heart from the burden of keeping anger and hatred within yourself. I compare this to the idea of the voodoo doll that you puncture to hurt someone else, only with hatred you are the voodoo doll that you hurt in the hopes that it will make the other also hurt (and usually it doesn't, just like the voodoo doll).