Any one have any advice on dealing with loss and grief?

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There's a book I bought for my class last year. 2 of the boy's suffered major losses in their families. And although they thought they were too old for it, they got a lot from it. It's called The Magical Wood, by Mark Lemon

I lost my mom about a year and a half ago. 3 weeks in the hospital with her. I miss her every day. The only advice I can give is to try and focus on the times before he was sick. It is extremely difficult to do. Remember he loved you and your daughter. Put your head down and push your way through the pain. They say time heals all wounds. This is bullshit. Time helps the wound scab over a bit, but the pain is always there and the mind keeps picking at the scab. The best you can do is focus on the good things. Probably not much help, but the fact that you are having a difficult time getting over the loss of your father only proves that you are human and that he is worth remembering.

Shitty unhelpful advice, I know...but it is the best I've got.

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss & will pray.

I also lost a parent, my mum, a few years ago when I was 27. Similar to you we were very close and it was 5 months between diagnosis and when she passed.

I can't tell you how to grieve as it is different for every person. I cant also say things get better over time. The anniversary of my mums passing was earlier this month and it was still tough.

At the time I tried to stay strong for my younger siblings (youngest was early 20s) but eventually I did need professional support. I was very grateful for my now wife making sure I sought help and was around for me.

My only advice I can give is to take each day as it comes and do take up offers of support from close friends & family. As you mention you have a daughter see if they or other families you know are able to look after her for a few hours to give you some space.

Finally I just wanted to say if you ever want to discuss anything directly I am fine to be a listening ear or if you ever need to vent & rave.

My condolences once again to you & the family.

The important thing to keep in mind is that no one can tell you how to go through your own grief process. My dad passed August 1 and I'm just getting my head around it. I'm bouncing around between anger and acceptance. You have to find your own peace with it. And you will. Peace be with you.

I'm sorry for your loss dear. I lost my mom at 17.

your loss will happen in stages...the denial, bargaining, anger, grief, and acceptance.

something that helped me was realizing that all people die. I would have my own experience with it. other people, friends and family will die as well.

it's only sad for the living. the dead seem quite at peace with it.

you will have some good days and bad. you'll feel guilty for laughing. and then one day you won't be sad. it will hit you like a ton of bricks - you weren't sad today.

enjoy your mom and daughter - support them in their loss.

no great words of wisdom. it will hurt. it will take time to recover.

we just virtually hugged you - hope it helped :)

I lost my mom and it really is a process. The pain never goes away. Sorry for your loss 😞😞🤗🤗

Well the first thing I would recommend is not to blame the hospital doctors or nurses there are so many What if's and it's only natural to point a finger at the nurses for not calling you but the main thing is he knew That you loved him.. You can still talk to him..And take comfort in knowing that one day you will see him again but for now live your life to the fullest because I'm sure that your father did..

I hope it helped you just writing it all down on here, do talk about your feelings, and expect to feel guilt, anger, blame, denial and lots of feelings during this time. My father passed in March after a sudden illness, it's getting easier, but still hits me hard sometimes.

Well that's a life . A true fact either dad or mom everyone have to go one day but their love and blessings are always with us and give strength to us whenever we feel weak.

Its difficult, when my mother died some years ago it was touch and go with me for a while. It was a few Christmases ago and I still remember sitting on the floor eating a cold Christmas dinner and sitting on the top of the stairs the next day wondering whether it was worth it

All I can say is hang on in there and take one day at a time, grieve at your own pace but most importantly take care of yourself. It will take time but slowly it will begin to get a bit better. At some point when you feel like it get involved with people. This is the best therapy of all. I do hope things will be ok eventually 🤗

You say "to call us", does that mean there's another adult that is also grieving the loss of your dad ?

So sorry.

I’m confused, is your “Papa” someone different from your dad? Because where I’m from “Papa” and “Dad” are interchangeable.

I lost my dad to cancer
I know it's a terrible feeling to lose someone of your own

I will share my experience with my Grandmother that passed recently.
I made sure she knew that I loved her.
I am very certain your Dad knew that you loved him. There is very little we can do beyond that and I am certain that knowledge brought him much comfort.

take it one day at a time

I am really about your loss. May he rest in peace snd you find the strength to over come this great loss.

Many of us have had loss, we don’t all know how or can, speak about it