Any one have any advice on dealing with loss and grief?

I don't really have anyone to talk to. My Dad passed March 6 from Sepsis, I watched him twice a day, everyday for two months struggle in hospital, then I arrived at afternoon visiting time to find my Dad had took a bad turn in the night and the nurses said they never had TIME to CALL us, by this time he had JUST lost his ability to talk, so I feel they stole our last lucid minutes with him, then I spent the next 12 hours comforting my Dad as he passed away. He was my BEST friend. He fixed everything with a coffee and a cuddle, he understood my personality disorder and was the only person I could speak to. I am heartbroken now he is gone. Can any one relate of give advice on coping? I am now also my Papas full time carer since he passed (my Dad and I split caring between us before he got ill too) and care for my 3 year old daughter, so it's hard to even find the time for myself, or to grieve.

Thanks to anyone who listened.

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nacnud · 31-35, M

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss & will pray.

I also lost a parent, my mum, a few years ago when I was 27. Similar to you we were very close and it was 5 months between diagnosis and when she passed.

I can't tell you how to grieve as it is different for every person. I cant also say things get better over time. The anniversary of my mums passing was earlier this month and it was still tough.

At the time I tried to stay strong for my younger siblings (youngest was early 20s) but eventually I did need professional support. I was very grateful for my now wife making sure I sought help and was around for me.

My only advice I can give is to take each day as it comes and do take up offers of support from close friends & family. As you mention you have a daughter see if they or other families you know are able to look after her for a few hours to give you some space.

Finally I just wanted to say if you ever want to discuss anything directly I am fine to be a listening ear or if you ever need to vent & rave.

My condolences once again to you & the family.