Any one have any advice on dealing with loss and grief?

I don't really have anyone to talk to. My Dad passed March 6 from Sepsis, I watched him twice a day, everyday for two months struggle in hospital, then I arrived at afternoon visiting time to find my Dad had took a bad turn in the night and the nurses said they never had TIME to CALL us, by this time he had JUST lost his ability to talk, so I feel they stole our last lucid minutes with him, then I spent the next 12 hours comforting my Dad as he passed away. He was my BEST friend. He fixed everything with a coffee and a cuddle, he understood my personality disorder and was the only person I could speak to. I am heartbroken now he is gone. Can any one relate of give advice on coping? I am now also my Papas full time carer since he passed (my Dad and I split caring between us before he got ill too) and care for my 3 year old daughter, so it's hard to even find the time for myself, or to grieve.

Thanks to anyone who listened.

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goliathtree · 56-60, M

I lost my mom about a year and a half ago. 3 weeks in the hospital with her. I miss her every day. The only advice I can give is to try and focus on the times before he was sick. It is extremely difficult to do. Remember he loved you and your daughter. Put your head down and push your way through the pain. They say time heals all wounds. This is bullshit. Time helps the wound scab over a bit, but the pain is always there and the mind keeps picking at the scab. The best you can do is focus on the good things. Probably not much help, but the fact that you are having a difficult time getting over the loss of your father only proves that you are human and that he is worth remembering.

Shitty unhelpful advice, I know...but it is the best I've got.