Any one have any advice on dealing with loss and grief?

I don't really have anyone to talk to. My Dad passed March 6 from Sepsis, I watched him twice a day, everyday for two months struggle in hospital, then I arrived at afternoon visiting time to find my Dad had took a bad turn in the night and the nurses said they never had TIME to CALL us, by this time he had JUST lost his ability to talk, so I feel they stole our last lucid minutes with him, then I spent the next 12 hours comforting my Dad as he passed away. He was my BEST friend. He fixed everything with a coffee and a cuddle, he understood my personality disorder and was the only person I could speak to. I am heartbroken now he is gone. Can any one relate of give advice on coping? I am now also my Papas full time carer since he passed (my Dad and I split caring between us before he got ill too) and care for my 3 year old daughter, so it's hard to even find the time for myself, or to grieve.

Thanks to anyone who listened.

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uncalled4 · 56-60, M

The important thing to keep in mind is that no one can tell you how to go through your own grief process. My dad passed August 1 and I'm just getting my head around it. I'm bouncing around between anger and acceptance. You have to find your own peace with it. And you will. Peace be with you.

NataliaStrange · 31-35, F

@uncalled4 Aw, sorry for your loss! And thanks! I can relate to having the moments of anger, think it's moments of anger and then just disbelief for me.

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

@NataliaStrange I was preparing for it. My dad's last year or so was tough. I even had some of his eulogy in my head years ago. It still sucked balls(and still does), but I think I began mourning a long time ago. Strangely, my gf has been absolutely horrible during a lot of this. She really has zero idea how to handle a grieving person. It's bewildering as well as disappointing. But, I am soooo lucky to have had 51 years of love and learning and happiness from him. The lessons stay. The love stays. And in that way, so do they. I feel his spirit around all the time.

Sorry for your loss, too.

NataliaStrange · 31-35, F

@uncalled4 That's a shame. I'm sorry you aren't getting the right support. I guess not everyone is capable of dealing with other people's or there own loss, I just hope that maybe she isn't aware she is doing it and perhaps is just her personality and not on purpose. Wishing you the best! Also, sorry it was such a long process mentally for you, I can imagine that was even more difficult!

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

@NataliaStrange We're working it out. Thanks and keep up the fight.

funfan · 46-50, M

@uncalled4 @NataliaStrange I wish the absolute best to both of you during this tough time. I almost lost my dad 2 years ago. Natalia, only 3 days before you lost yours, the most special femme I ever met in my life succumbed to cancer. She had the perfect life (and helped so many during that life) with a loving husband and 2 young girls, and then cancer took it all away. 🤬 cancer!!!