Any one have any advice on dealing with loss and grief?

I don't really have anyone to talk to. My Dad passed March 6 from Sepsis, I watched him twice a day, everyday for two months struggle in hospital, then I arrived at afternoon visiting time to find my Dad had took a bad turn in the night and the nurses said they never had TIME to CALL us, by this time he had JUST lost his ability to talk, so I feel they stole our last lucid minutes with him, then I spent the next 12 hours comforting my Dad as he passed away. He was my BEST friend. He fixed everything with a coffee and a cuddle, he understood my personality disorder and was the only person I could speak to. I am heartbroken now he is gone. Can any one relate of give advice on coping? I am now also my Papas full time carer since he passed (my Dad and I split caring between us before he got ill too) and care for my 3 year old daughter, so it's hard to even find the time for myself, or to grieve.

Thanks to anyone who listened.

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approachingmyexpirationdate · 61-69, M

I'm sorry for your loss dear. I lost my mom at 17.

your loss will happen in stages...the denial, bargaining, anger, grief, and acceptance.

something that helped me was realizing that all people die. I would have my own experience with it. other people, friends and family will die as well.

it's only sad for the living. the dead seem quite at peace with it.

you will have some good days and bad. you'll feel guilty for laughing. and then one day you won't be sad. it will hit you like a ton of bricks - you weren't sad today.

enjoy your mom and daughter - support them in their loss.

no great words of wisdom. it will hurt. it will take time to recover.

we just virtually hugged you - hope it helped :)