Husband getting too comfy home after he was fired 6 months ago?

Time to get tough and tell him for the sake of your marriage and family he needs to take action or he will lose everything. It's not right what he's doing .

I think it is time to get tough with him and tell him how his self pitying is impacting everyone's life AND how your feeling about him because of it...worse things happen to people than losing a job. It is time to wake him up...with an ultimatum. It's one of those times when it is completely appropriate. If you continue to be gentle with him he will not move on any level...you will be enabling him. Do both of you a favor and get some TOUGH LOVE happening!!!

I went through this with the ex. He became disabled with a weird disease that caused his hands and feet to swell up. He couldn't work. He became very depressed. He didn't want to do anything. For five years he refused to re-train for a job he could handle. I had to support our house and our family while he was going through this. Apparently his physical strength and his job were tied in to his own perception of his manhood, and he felt as though he was no longer a man.

Thank heavens his disease finally went into remission!!! He finally went back to college and retrained, and now he makes a lot of money running IT for a large company. In the meantime, he went through a radical personality change. It was as though he had died and another man moved in to inhabit his body.

We are divorced now. I think he was doing drugs other than pot, and always drank heavily, and whoever he had become was not the man with whom I fell in love.

If he does not stop drinking, he will become more and more depressed. You might wish to make an enormous withdrawal from your mutual account and create an account he can't touch. When he runs out of money he will not be able to buy booze. If possible, you need to take the money away from him so he can't continue to hurt himself with the booze. I never did that, but the ex couldn't get out of the house to buy the stuff.

In the meantime, the only thing you can do is attend al-anon meetings for the families of alcoholics....and tell him where you are going.

Honestly you need to light a fire under his ass, put his feet to the coals and get him moving.

Just don't do it so it's toxic otherwise it can come back on you.

You might try the frugal approach at first, cut costs on meals (the kid being the exception), downgrading tv services like dish or whatever, etc.

Go talk to a counselor yourself at first if you haven't already, they help with that stuff a great deal and may have a pretty good idea on how to handle the situation.

I hope things work out in your favor

You should do something before your marriage goes down the drain. Maybe you shouldn't tell him in a nice way to go look for another job. He can't just sit at home doing mindless shit that don't fix the situation because it'll only get worse. Do something now before it's too late

Yes, my family is going through that now. We actually blew through the retirement savings and are livin paycheck to paycheck. My dad still hasn't found a job and I'm not so sure if he's doing all that he can at this point.

I think your hubby still has a chance. He just needs to get back out there. It's a lot tougher to explain to people and employers why you haven't worked in a year and a half at all. Don't let him get to that point.

He is unable to bring you money for 6 months and this is all what you have to say. No surprise

He needs counselling. Period. It may take a shock to get him there.

Tough love would do him good. Tell him to get a job or your leaving