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How to deal with a partner that is not paying attention to anything

In some ways he is making teeny tiny baby steps of improvement. I am also tailoring my expectations

But Why Why do I tell him over and over that I have one week of vacation for me to go and visit our rental property and do a lot of work that needs to be done. I ask him what supplies I need because I need to know how much I have to spend and we need to get the stuff ordered. I ask him daily for 2 weeks to assist me Cuz he is not working.
Then today the day before I leave to start my 12 hour drive to the property he starts whinning that I was never clear about when I was coming and that I might have waited too late to purchase the supplies to work on the house. 馃槫
But that he will produce a list for me of things he needs up there.
Trying to stay peaceful and not nag.
Why doesn't he pay attention??? Ahhhhh
Pat99931-35, M
sorry to hear this.. but small steps is everything
SW-User
Ignore him, resist every urge to "nag", and let things fall apart, and then he will be the one asking you questions. He's not taking responsibility because you're doing all the work and he thinks that includes taking the blame.
Grateful4youM
Sounds to me like he has selective attention that he uses to get out of things. This behavior doesn't go away and will worsen as time goes on. It may be time for you to evaluate how much worth and value he adds to your life. I've a feeling you can do MUCH better and deserve someone with motivation and shares your interest.
REMsleep41-45, F
@Grateful4you I wont ever go to extreme of divorce but I have to find a less stressful way to communicate important info where he cannot say that he didn't know about it.
Grateful4youM
@REMsleep Too bad about the "No divorce" I couldn't deal with what you have to on a daily basis. I would rather live alone. You deserve a quality of life and I hope you can find it hon.
HannahSkyF
Probably tuned you out asking every day.
REMsleep41-45, F
@HannahSky Yea he tunes out a lot but I don't know how to get him to listen to just the important stuff. This is important. I don't know what stuff we need. And I travel for work and work 2 jobs I don't have time.
HannahSkyF
@REMsleep that's rough, people hate to be told over and over, have to ask him what would be better for him if you need his input.
dont try and change moi .. baybay
Human1000M
I鈥檇 leave him.
REMsleep41-45, F

 
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