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How to deal with a partner that is not paying attention to anything

In some ways he is making teeny tiny baby steps of improvement. I am also tailoring my expectations

But Why Why do I tell him over and over that I have one week of vacation for me to go and visit our rental property and do a lot of work that needs to be done. I ask him what supplies I need because I need to know how much I have to spend and we need to get the stuff ordered. I ask him daily for 2 weeks to assist me Cuz he is not working.
Then today the day before I leave to start my 12 hour drive to the property he starts whinning that I was never clear about when I was coming and that I might have waited too late to purchase the supplies to work on the house. 馃槫
But that he will produce a list for me of things he needs up there.
Trying to stay peaceful and not nag.
Why doesn't he pay attention??? Ahhhhh
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Grateful4youM
Sounds to me like he has selective attention that he uses to get out of things. This behavior doesn't go away and will worsen as time goes on. It may be time for you to evaluate how much worth and value he adds to your life. I've a feeling you can do MUCH better and deserve someone with motivation and shares your interest.
REMsleep41-45, F
@Grateful4you I wont ever go to extreme of divorce but I have to find a less stressful way to communicate important info where he cannot say that he didn't know about it.
Grateful4youM
@REMsleep Too bad about the "No divorce" I couldn't deal with what you have to on a daily basis. I would rather live alone. You deserve a quality of life and I hope you can find it hon.