Should I let her choose all of our dates for now on?

I was apparently being selfish by not letting this girl I’ve been talking to pick anything she wanted to do. I felt bad so I’m banning myself from choosing any activities for dates.

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LadyGrace

No! No need to go overboard. Just talk it over together. Or take turns choosing.

Bubbles · 36-40, F

No, you come up with ideas and talk about it with her, to see if it is something that you both want to do.

VulcanGalaxy · 26-30, M

I don’t trust myself to choose. I’ll probably go back to being selfish again if I choose.

indyjoe · 56-60, M

You don't have to stop choosing/doing things you want to do...but just keep in mind that when you are in a relationship or trying to get into one, it's not just about you anymore. Still make decisions of your own, but take her into consideration while doing it and also give her equal opportunity to choose things she likes as well (even if you aren't the biggest fan of it)...you'd be surprised how well that will work.😉

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VulcanGalaxy · 26-30, M

I am a selfish prick so I’m not sure how I’m being melodramatic.

nahright09 · 41-45, M

@VulcanGalaxy being a selfish prick and dating/being in a relationship...that's sweet.

VulcanGalaxy · 26-30, M

not really

KittenfromHell · 61-69, F

No, you pick one, she picks the next and so on. If she picks everything then you're just being dragged along. But if she's done things she's not that interested in because you wanted to, then you owe it to her to do the same for her.

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

That's the spirit. We're so proud of how you are maturing.

LandonWinchester

Just take turns. Simple as that.

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