Should I let her choose all of our dates for now on?

I was apparently being selfish by not letting this girl I’ve been talking to pick anything she wanted to do. I felt bad so I’m banning myself from choosing any activities for dates.

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indyjoe · 56-60, M

You don't have to stop choosing/doing things you want to do...but just keep in mind that when you are in a relationship or trying to get into one, it's not just about you anymore. Still make decisions of your own, but take her into consideration while doing it and also give her equal opportunity to choose things she likes as well (even if you aren't the biggest fan of it)...you'd be surprised how well that will work.😉

VulcanGalaxy · 26-30, M

I’m just not choosing anymore. That includes doing anything with friends. I know I’m a selfish prick so the only way to maintain myself is letting everyone else choose.

indyjoe · 56-60, M

@VulcanGalaxy Whatever you want to do...it's your life.

Bubbles · 36-40, F

@VulcanGalaxy I feel like you are being a bit melodramatic. I would be annoyed if I was your girlfriend, and brought up my feelings that consist of wanting to pick some of our date ideas, and your reaction was to essentially freak out, pout and say "ok fine, then I am not choosing any ideas for anything ever". Just get over it and work together to pick date ideas, it really shouldn't be this dramatic.

nahright09 · 41-45, M

@Bubbles your insights are dead on...sadly lost on dude.

VulcanGalaxy · 26-30, M

I am a selfish prick so I’m not sure how I’m being melodramatic.

nahright09 · 41-45, M

@VulcanGalaxy being a selfish prick and dating/being in a relationship...that's sweet.

VulcanGalaxy · 26-30, M

not really