Why Would You Ever want your spouse to sleep with someone else? Then they compare that person to you or end up wanting them and not you.
Inviting trouble much.
26-30, F
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1. You may overthink, over think and miss the clues of your mates actual interactions with you.
2. Sex is a small part of a relationship. In each 24 hours, how you 2 get-along or not, is the focus.
3. The lust, the body desire will decrease, not so intense, then what. ...?
4. To bring in new stimulus, tenderness, touch of touch....keep it inviting, then your mate won't want another.
In long-term you are each more like to trigger each others insecurities, have this be your focus, to forgive for small issues, to forgive big issues. This will account for long lasting friends, friends glad to be friends together.
Sex is sex, getting along is having a relationship that grows within each personality.
2. Sex is a small part of a relationship. In each 24 hours, how you 2 get-along or not, is the focus.
3. The lust, the body desire will decrease, not so intense, then what. ...?
4. To bring in new stimulus, tenderness, touch of touch....keep it inviting, then your mate won't want another.
In long-term you are each more like to trigger each others insecurities, have this be your focus, to forgive for small issues, to forgive big issues. This will account for long lasting friends, friends glad to be friends together.
Sex is sex, getting along is having a relationship that grows within each personality.
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MysteriousRose · 26-30, F
@Miram Marriage is an open sliding door is what your saying.
Miram · 31-35, F
@MysteriousRose That's what you conclude believing all partnerships have to be your way, over-emphasizing the sexual dimension, regardless of variations in contexts.
You're thinking "it should be x and y..otherwise it is not marriage", I am thinking "I will not attempt to control another person's happiness nor base my decisions on fears"
You're thinking "it should be x and y..otherwise it is not marriage", I am thinking "I will not attempt to control another person's happiness nor base my decisions on fears"
ajent86 · 56-60, M
You see the entire spectrum of attitudes on SW. I know I’m at one end of that spectrum. Why is it that having sex outside your marriage is, to some people, the worst thing in the world?
Some SWers see extramarital sex as worse than, say, driving the kids around while completely liquored up, worse than being completely uninterested in what one’s partner feels or has to say, worse than sabotaging the kids’ chances at life by losing a good job when you didn’t have to, worse even than supporting Trump.
If you’re in that camp, why is straying so bad?! You make this out to be a sacred cow in life when other forces can creep in and really fuck up your shit.
Some SWers see extramarital sex as worse than, say, driving the kids around while completely liquored up, worse than being completely uninterested in what one’s partner feels or has to say, worse than sabotaging the kids’ chances at life by losing a good job when you didn’t have to, worse even than supporting Trump.
If you’re in that camp, why is straying so bad?! You make this out to be a sacred cow in life when other forces can creep in and really fuck up your shit.
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
voodoo1970 · 51-55, M
Everyone's relationship dynamic is different.
Personally I'd only be comfortable with my spouse (if I had one) being with someone else if I was there roo and we were having a mutually agreed and organised group activity, with full understanding and ground rules
Personally I'd only be comfortable with my spouse (if I had one) being with someone else if I was there roo and we were having a mutually agreed and organised group activity, with full understanding and ground rules
MysteriousRose · 26-30, F
@voodoo1970 Well now that's interesting. Why ground rules and group activity if them sleeping with someone else is okay. Now your trying to control a situation like your nervous of losing them. (Not being rude)
voodoo1970 · 51-55, M
Because group sex can be fun, but we are all human.
It is possible for even otherwise well adjusted people to feel jealousy, or to mistake the rush of hormones during sex for love or sonething deeper.
Ground rules and understanding (the rules go both ways, btw, not just one party dictating to the other) go a long way towards having an enjoyable experience whilst maintaining the trust needed in a relationship.
It is possible for even otherwise well adjusted people to feel jealousy, or to mistake the rush of hormones during sex for love or sonething deeper.
Ground rules and understanding (the rules go both ways, btw, not just one party dictating to the other) go a long way towards having an enjoyable experience whilst maintaining the trust needed in a relationship.
NeuroticByNature · 41-45, F
I wouldnt do that but i have considered autioning him off to the first bidder.