what is considered too big of an age difference in marriage?

@LyricalOne I never judge anyone else in "May-December" relationships, but I admit that I do often wonder what they could possibly have in common. You being 10 years older than your late husband is understandable to me...I set a 10 year limit on myself because that is what I be most comfortable with personally. Mrsindyjoe is 7 1/2 years younger than me and it works out just fine because we have so much in common, the eras we grew up in overlapped and so we know and remember a lot of the same things, and we also have showed and taught each other many things too (from times I knew before she came along and from times after I had already entered adult hood before her). 10 years is a fair gap to maneuver in.

@SW-User I think people say that but if someone sees me with a guy 20 years younger/older they would say are you sure you really love him, or he is only in to you because he is using you.

@ThroughMyEyes Age is only a number...and on that alone it should not matter. But there is more involved here than mere numbers. There is a lot more involved that can be impacted by the difference. I'm not saying it can't work because sometimes it does (maybe even many times). But it becomes not just two people chronologically different getting together, but two people raised differently and influenced differently because of the time they came from as well as physical incompatibilities (and I'm not just talking sex which could possibly be an issue too).

@Wghtlvr thats a good rule so for me a 24 year old woman the youngest man i could be with is 19. I would not want any younger anyway.

@Girlyfriendcollecting and the oldest would be 34.