what is considered too big of an age difference in marriage?

what is considered too big of an age difference in marriage?
I think 8 years apart is still acceptable but anything more than that in either direction is too much.

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LyricalOne · F

Speaking of adults of a legal age of course, I don’t like to put parameters on these things because life has a way of surprising us and challenging our notions. I was ten years older than my late husband and the marriage worked out just fine, the ultimate irony being that he passed away first.

indyjoe · 56-60, M

@LyricalOne I never judge anyone else in "May-December" relationships, but I admit that I do often wonder what they could possibly have in common. You being 10 years older than your late husband is understandable to me...I set a 10 year limit on myself because that is what I be most comfortable with personally. Mrsindyjoe is 7 1/2 years younger than me and it works out just fine because we have so much in common, the eras we grew up in overlapped and so we know and remember a lot of the same things, and we also have showed and taught each other many things too (from times I knew before she came along and from times after I had already entered adult hood before her). 10 years is a fair gap to maneuver in.