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Should I write a letter to my Therapist when I am no longer her Client?

I'm thinking of doing this, so that way there is no damage to her professional career as a Therapist. I feel its the safest bet because I know that nothing can't come between Her and I. As much as I say that I Love Her, (in which I do), its not fair to me nor her because she has a profession to uphold. I will Miss her dearly and for how much she has helped me in my way of living and knowing that she has made me feel that I deserve to be Loved by someone, even if its not with her. I know that now. Any thoughts or opinions? Thank You

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DecafD

I would only write it if you truly know she loved you back like that. If not, then it may creep her out. It’s one thing if she stopped seeing you as a client so she could break that boundary and ethically date you and it’s another if she just stopped seeing you bc it was one-way feelings and she did not want to deal with that. I don’t know the rules here either. Are you not allowed to date former clients as a therapist? Is that frowned upon?

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DecafD

@DutchGravitas I wouldn’t say damaging bc she won’t lose anything from knowing how you feel. It would affect her more than it does you if she doesn’t share those same feelings. Yeah if all you sensed were signals and you’re not certain, then I wouldn’t send it. What if she sent you something back that wasn’t so nice in response?

DutchGravitas · 41-45, M

Very True. Hence the reason why I'm not going forward with it anymore. It won't be fair for me or her because it's quite risky for me to do so.

DecafD

@DutchGravitas Love is complicated. I hope you find someone new soon!

revenant · F

She must have signed a code of ethics. Professionals and clients should not have intimate relationships. It is more for your protection than hers.
You are the vulnerable one in this relationship. You are the one who might be manipulated.
Sessions with the therapist cannot be very fruitful if romance starts to creep up.
You are more worried about her standing whilst you should be more concerned with your own wellbeing.
Therapists also should not encourage dependence. They are there to help you with your life and to become independent.
If she is a good therapist she would have inklings about your feelings towards her, don't you think ?

Well it does not mean that therapists and clients do not mingle outside sessions of course. We are all humans. Happens all the time !

Machete · 56-60, M

Happens all the time.
Must be something to do with having someone to talk with that understands or something like that.

SW-User

Yes write all your feelings and thoughts and send them to her just dont expect anything back. It will make you feel better to express yourself! Tell her how you are feeling these days! Good luck ❤

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