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Should I write a letter to my Therapist when I am no longer her Client?

I'm thinking of doing this, so that way there is no damage to her professional career as a Therapist. I feel its the safest bet because I know that nothing can't come between Her and I. As much as I say that I Love Her, (in which I do), its not fair to me nor her because she has a profession to uphold. I will Miss her dearly and for how much she has helped me in my way of living and knowing that she has made me feel that I deserve to be Loved by someone, even if its not with her. I know that now. Any thoughts or opinions? Thank You

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DecafD

I would only write it if you truly know she loved you back like that. If not, then it may creep her out. It’s one thing if she stopped seeing you as a client so she could break that boundary and ethically date you and it’s another if she just stopped seeing you bc it was one-way feelings and she did not want to deal with that. I don’t know the rules here either. Are you not allowed to date former clients as a therapist? Is that frowned upon?

DutchGravitas · 41-45, M

I'm her client and I've read that it is policy of female therapists to not mingle with their clients but there have been times in sessions that she was sending signals but maybe I could be wrong. I'm not to worried about it anymore. The only reason why I am making posts about this is because I like hearing other opinions about this type of manner.

DutchGravitas · 41-45, M

I have to ask but don't you think it would be damaging if I did write a letter to her of how feel?

DecafD

@DutchGravitas I wouldn’t say damaging bc she won’t lose anything from knowing how you feel. It would affect her more than it does you if she doesn’t share those same feelings. Yeah if all you sensed were signals and you’re not certain, then I wouldn’t send it. What if she sent you something back that wasn’t so nice in response?

DutchGravitas · 41-45, M

Very True. Hence the reason why I'm not going forward with it anymore. It won't be fair for me or her because it's quite risky for me to do so.

DecafD

@DutchGravitas Love is complicated. I hope you find someone new soon!