Why is it that Everytime I say out loud I don't want kids. I get the look of disgust or the pity look. Like I'm a broken person for not wanting them..is it me or does this happen to anyone else?
I think having or not having kids is a personal choice and everyone should mind their own business when it comes to it. Sorry you feel like you're being judged.
As a lifelong single person by choice, people always ask if I was even close to marriage. I knew by 30 I never wanted kids so I exercised good birth control and self control. I also knew about then that I didn't like the concept of marriage either. When you do this, you go against societal expectations. Same with women who don't have kids. Remember a number of people are sheeple. They go along with society without having a strong sense of thinking things through or being the one who says fu** it, I don't want this stuff. I get a perverse pleasure now in married couples who are miserable. Studies indicate that up to 25% of marrieds regret their decision to have kids. The experience project group " I live in a sexless marriage" had 40,000 members. That should tell you something also.
@ddt333: I just have different plans for myself. I want to see more of the world and kids would get in the way of that. But I would like to be married one day.
I don't know. Some women just don't want kids. We'll live. It's usually the pro life fucktards that are the ones who make a big deal out of that. I wish people would stop perpetuating this stereotype that all women want children. Or that it's even necessary.
Some studies indicate 25% or more of people regret having kids. Then you have idiots who should never breed in the first place. I get the flack about never marrying or having kids. I tell people the M in marriage is for misery and that the planet has enough people using up resources. If they push the issue, I get even more in their face about many marriages being sexless and that kids are a pain in the ass. Hey, how are those sleepless nights working out for you? Hey, misery loves company...right? Yeah sorry, don't want to join the company. Most married people with kids just need to shut the fuck up about all of it.
There is flack from both sides. You also have very high and might "child free" folks who run around guilting anyone who has children. There are people with load and obnoxious opinions at both ends. I think with those who don't understand not wanting kids there is at least part of it that is biological programing. Every living organism is designed to procreate.
When one of my daughters was growing up she worked part time in a daycare center for little kids. It cured her from motherhood for along time. She had one at 30 and it was over, no more.
I think it's the common perception about women and expectation that women would become a mother. People like to judge without even being in other's shoes.