Is this inappropriate?

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I go to all girls k-12 school. not only the students, but all of the teachers including the principal are females (the security guards and the janitors are the only exception)
And at my high school, the teachers don’t mind giving some students their phone number and social media accounts.
And due to multiple reasons/situations I got the number of the principal, my basketball coach, the counselor and most of my teachers.
I text them rarely and even when I do it’s formal and for school related stuff only.
But lately I have texting a “few” of them for fun (my coach, my math teacher and my English teacher)
And they don’t mind at all.
I even told my coach about how much I miss basketball practice (Because of corona, schools have shut down temporarily and practice got cancelled) so she invited me over to her house to play with her in her basketball court.
I didn’t go though because of the quarantine.
My best friend online thinks it’s inappropriate for teachers no matter the gender to give their students (12-17 year olds ) their number.
But I don’t think it’s a big deal? I mean they are just friendly and normal convos?

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Allelse · 36-40, M

My wife and I were talking about it the other day, ahhhhhhhhh, well. Here's the thing, you'er old enough understand I hope. Alot of students have been manipulated into inappropriate relationships by teachers, coaches etc in this way.

"Oh sure, come around and I'll help you with your homework". And so on. Now this isn't always the case, but it's not an unknown situation and so just to be safe, for both student and teacher, I think its probably best to avoid too much interaction outside of school hours.

Moon3624 · 18-21, F

@Allelse I will be more careful, thanks a lot for the comment 💛

Allelse · 36-40, M

@Moon3624 I mean you don't have to go nuts and start jumping at shadows, but just be wary. And remember if you feel uncomfortable, that's all that matters. It doesn't matter if they think you should be feeling safe, doesn't matter, just leave. Because it's how you feel that matters. So ignore any 'Oh come on, but nothing's wrong, it's safe". nope. If you don't feel safe, get out of there. And this applies to any situation in life.

Moon3624 · 18-21, F

@Allelse well my coach is like my older sis but I will be careful around her and my other teachers too etc
I Will try to keep things a lil bit formal
Thank you a lot

Lucyy · 22-25, F

For school stuff it's normal. I had numbers of my coaches and drama teacher, etc. I would meet up with my coach and some team mates for practice after hours, and would "unofficially" go to my drama teachers house after a production (she had a kid in our school, so we'd say "party at Peter's house lol). But it can be innapropriate. There should be a line. For example, going over to a teachers house alone or just casually talking to them about your personal life over text seems to cross that line

Moon3624 · 18-21, F

@Lucyy you have a point there, thanks for the comment 💞

Ksmile14 · F

I think it would be ok. s long as they're not being all creepy and stuff. 🤷‍♀️

BaddieMaddy · F

yeah it's no biggie imo. only time it might seem yikes-y is if one of the teacher starts encroaching/abusing power but that doesn't seem like that's what is happening.

Moon3624 · 18-21, F

That’s what I think, thanks for the comment ❤️ @BaddieMaddy

th3r0n · 41-45, M

I don’t find any issue with it as long as it’s nothing nasty going on, though few can be trusted these days, so I see where they’re coming from

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