Should men stop using this approach to try to date women?

Most guys aren't creative enough to think of anything besides dinner..
If they can't make a good impression it's not the woman's fault. She shouldn't feel any obligation to see him again and he shouldn't blame her if it doesn't work out.

This probably standoffish/rude/stuck-up/too prideful I don't know (just what I have been told) but if a guy asks me out to anywhere they only way I will agree to go is if he lets me pay for my stuff. If its dinner lets me pay for my own dinner. If it is a movie then let me pay for my ticket. A lot of guys said that this made them uncomfortable but it makes me uncomfortable when guys use paying for the first date as leverage or as a method to coerce/guilt trip me into a second date.

Only when I feel I might like a guy or feel comfortable with him will I let him pay for anything for me. My mom said I need to let the guy do his part/feel needed. But I just find it really uncomfortable and [i]maybe[/i] that's why I've never had a SO, hahaha...

But to answer your question if yes in the sense that they should be open to other methods/approaches.

I can’t imagine a woman being so hard up that she accepts a date for a free dinner!! If she never contacts the guy again, it may be because there was no chemistry. Surely, he felt that as well. Moreover, in my experience, I get asked out for the second date at the end of the first. If he didn’t do that she may think he isn’t all that into her. Just my thoughts

No one can commit to having someone as a partner just because they had dinner together. It's wrong to use someone if you have no intention of ever seeing them again, of course, but you have to date to get to know someone to find out whether you both want to be together longer term.

You can only have an idea of whether you’re gonna like someone. After a meal and time spent talking, you generally know if there’s any chemistry and whether you want to see the person again. Otherwise known as dating.

I sure wish people would stop calling it “free meals!” If a man isn’t equipped to take a prospective partner out to dinner... if he views it in such a mercenary manner... no wonder he gets shot down.

Did it occur to you that the women didn't call because the guy was a total bore? Many are ya know

There have been a few first dates I went on where I did that. But it was because the guy turned out to be an asshat!

She was invited to dinner...she attends that dinner with him....during the meal she realizes he is not her cuppa tea...for whatever reason. Happens all the time. Why should she call him after???? She most likely thanked him for the meal...done deal! AND how many males take a woman to dinner expecting to have sex in return??????? I would say MOST men expect/hope for that to happen. But a woman just wants a "free meal?"....BS

Maybe the girl does like him and no intentions to not continue, but during the meal the guy just turns her off.. what he says, what he does, his manurisms . how you eat is a big indication of how you live.. same with your car.

It’s a way of meeting and interacting
(Not my style for early interaction, perhaps later)

You have to have dinner with a lot of frogs to find your prince or princess
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I think there's more to that story. Some women can't confront the men that they're not interested in them but since they've received the free meals, they can't bare to humiliate themselves before the truth so they run away. I've heard cases where women, wives who couldn't spare any love with their husbands anymore ran away and brought the kids along, leaving the men nothing because they were too afraid to break the silence about why they stopped loving their husbands.

Well, that's kinda the risk you take. A woman isn't obligated to speak to you again just because you bought her a meal.

No, she went on the date and then during the date, decided it wasn't gonna work.

It’s a common thing to do on a date. It allows for conversation. However, there are many other dating options. So yeah, if I felt taken advantage of, I’d forgo the dinners until I found somebody who wanted me for more than a free meal.

I believe some women do that. But I could never take advantage of a guy like that, especially if I wasn't attracted to him.

I think if tge woman like him might be a second date,if not Oh well.

Yes, it’s not wise to sit down for a meal for a first date. Coffee, a drink or an activity are way better. You figure out within the first 10/15 minutes of conversation whether you’d like to see this person again.

Women wanting a free dinner? Wouldn't surprise me at all. These bitches wanting sugar daddies are out there after all

I think a guy is better off asking for coffee first. It's casual, you can chat and talk about stuff, and if you don't hit it off - no big deal

I had a similar thingg happen to me but she literally just wanted a lift into town where she wanted to meet this other guy lol. Never mind

You buy the dinner for the company, and the chance for more.
If you only see it as win/lose, it's gonna suck.

It happens. It never happened to me, but you can't win unless you play.

maybe after how they see him chewing with his mouth open? idk..