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Should men stop using this approach to try to date women?

A lot of guys (my uncle did this too) will ask to buy a girl dinner, the girl accepts, then the guy never hears from them again. I've heard multiple men talk about this. I can not imagine myself ever agreeing to go on a date with a guy if I didn't even think I would like him. And do women actually go to dinner with a guy just to get free dinner? That blows my mind

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luckranger71 · 51-55, M

Yes, it’s not wise to sit down for a meal for a first date. Coffee, a drink or an activity are way better. You figure out within the first 10/15 minutes of conversation whether you’d like to see this person again.

Sweet517 · 51-55, F

@luckranger71 another perspective on that. By the time someone’s asked me out, we’ve usually already interacted enough to know if we basically are attracted. If he invites me for coffee or a midweek lunch, I have a hard time not interpreting that as him making a low investment in time and my interest in him starts to flag.

luckranger71 · 51-55, M

@Sweet517 Fair enough. I agree that weekday day dates are a non starter. And coffee: well I guess I’d only suggest that if I knew someone didn’t drink. 🍸. There aren’t many of those here in the upper Midwest 😎