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Should men stop using this approach to try to date women?

A lot of guys (my uncle did this too) will ask to buy a girl dinner, the girl accepts, then the guy never hears from them again. I've heard multiple men talk about this. I can not imagine myself ever agreeing to go on a date with a guy if I didn't even think I would like him. And do women actually go to dinner with a guy just to get free dinner? That blows my mind

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Fernie · F

She was invited to dinner...she attends that dinner with him....during the meal she realizes he is not her cuppa tea...for whatever reason. Happens all the time. Why should she call him after???? She most likely thanked him for the meal...done deal! AND how many males take a woman to dinner expecting to have sex in return??????? I would say MOST men expect/hope for that to happen. But a woman just wants a "free meal?"....BS

Sweet517 · 51-55, F

@Fernie thidcwhole post has me confused. If a gentleman invites a lady to dinner, on what planet is she expected to owe him anything? If he wanted a second date, he could just call her and ask for one. I’m baffled by the expectation that she would call him anyway. Typically, no matter how forward thinking and non sexist we try to be, a woman who pursues a man is experienced as aggressive, desperate whatever. We learn at a very young age not to “ chase boys”.

Fernie · F

@Sweet517 Geez, you had me there right up until the part where you shot back 60 years. Those "rules" for men and women are passé' and archaic and keep women down and weak and UNEQUAL... the total opposite of what women have been fighting for.

Sweet517 · 51-55, F

Hardly a sixty year shot back. Chasing a guy for a date can reek of desperation. Besides my point is, Why is the writer waiting around for her to call? The phone works both ways

Fernie · F

@Sweet517 why do you keep calling it "chasing?" It's demeaning. That is a male mentality. Women who are free of all of those stupid rules made for them by men and that buybull...they even...ready?...maybe you should sit down...PROPOSE marriage to the man they love. Nothing to do with desperation. It has to do with freedom and equality

Sweet517 · 51-55, F

@Fernie in a relationship, sure. On a first date... I just think it’s different