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Should men stop using this approach to try to date women?

A lot of guys (my uncle did this too) will ask to buy a girl dinner, the girl accepts, then the guy never hears from them again. I've heard multiple men talk about this. I can not imagine myself ever agreeing to go on a date with a guy if I didn't even think I would like him. And do women actually go to dinner with a guy just to get free dinner? That blows my mind

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TURTLEGOD

This probably standoffish/rude/stuck-up/too prideful I don't know (just what I have been told) but if a guy asks me out to anywhere they only way I will agree to go is if he lets me pay for my stuff. If its dinner lets me pay for my own dinner. If it is a movie then let me pay for my ticket. A lot of guys said that this made them uncomfortable but it makes me uncomfortable when guys use paying for the first date as leverage or as a method to coerce/guilt trip me into a second date.

Only when I feel I might like a guy or feel comfortable with him will I let him pay for anything for me. My mom said I need to let the guy do his part/feel needed. But I just find it really uncomfortable and [i]maybe[/i] that's why I've never had a SO, hahaha...

But to answer your question if yes in the sense that they should be open to other methods/approaches.

Fernie · F

@TURTLEGOD I love everything you said...except the part where your Mother said " I need to let the guy do his part/feel needed" That is a 50's mentality and we really should not have to feed their male ego...evolved MEN don't need that anymore