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I Have Daddy Issues

I'm tired of having a mini panic attack everytime I interract with a man. I guess I'll never overcome my fear of people and especially men.

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Miram · 31-35, F

Fear is good. Most of the people you trust will disappoint you, men and women. I think when we say "I have daddy issues" we are putting too much responsibility on ourselves. It's not our responsibility how people react to our fear, not our responsibility how they can't handle the fact we can't trust easily, not our responsibility that we don't fit the normal mold... Our primary responsibility is doing what's best for us. For that only you have to find a healthy way to channel that fear.

The fears that we have are the outcome of having to carry burdens created by others.

And more fears will be created from tying other people's expectations to whether or not we are dysfunctional.

Quizzical · 46-50, M

Hmmm, this isn't really the best place to be if you fear men to be honest. There are some here that would try to exploit that fear and vulnerability...

Stay safe!

Kodokuna · 26-30, F

@Quizzical thanks for the advice. Objectively speaking, I noticed that there are a lot of strange people here and I don't even answer to most pms. I've met people who tried to take advantage of my vulnerability, but luckily I was able to see it.

Quizzical · 46-50, M

@Kodokuna Glad you are wise to it x

Jumpycat · 26-30, M

We ain't much to be scared of we are more afraid of you then you are of us treat us like spiders.

Kodokuna · 26-30, F

@Jumpycat you made me laugh 😁 sometimes I actually feel like I scare men away lol

WoodyAq · M

Comes with self-confidence. You just have to tell yourself that humans are frail, everyone has their weaknesses, and probably variations of the same insecurities you have.

The main differences are the masks they put on and the roles they play.

Develop a good act, and fake it. It'll feel awkward at first, but soon it'll be natural.

Kodokuna · 26-30, F

@WoodyAq Thanks for the advice! I made progress during the past years, now I manage to talk to people and don't worry about looking weird/ridiculous, but sometimes after having a conversation I start shaking all over, get a headache bla bla. Like I feel now.

WoodyAq · M

@Kodokuna I had the same problems. I couldn't walk across a crowded room because I was worried people were looking at me.

I still get exhausted quickly in social occasions, but I'm no longer paralysed.

It'll never be easy for you, I think, but if you're committed to putting in the work, it will get easier.