What do you do if your GF tells you she cheated on you once two years ago?
And that she was incredibly guilty about it?
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TheGreatLeveler 路 31-35, M
This is an old post that popped up on my feed, but in that case you obviously break things off. Her crocodile tears are irrelevant.
carsonfry 路 22-25, M
I would try to be understanding and respectful that she felt guilty enough to be honest and bring it up.
She could just keep it a secret and everything would be OK.
I know a girl that did this, and 7 years later her husband divorced her, and he said it was because he could never forgive her.
She could just keep it a secret and everything would be OK.
I know a girl that did this, and 7 years later her husband divorced her, and he said it was because he could never forgive her.
Saucylover 路 26-30, F
A lot of times they tell you it is due the guilt they feel. It does not mean you should leave them. That decision is up to you. Some people can move on from infidelity, others simply can not. I am in a relationship, and we decided that if we cheat we are not going to tell each other, unless it is emotional cheating. Like, you fall in love with someone else. If it is simply for pleasure and you made a mistake, it is best to keep it to yourself (at least in our relationship, I am not speaking for everyone). I think it is not worth losing the value you have over guilt and remorse.
Dominus 路 31-35, M
Honestly at your age and being she told you essentially confessing to you I would forgive her and try to forget it happened. I suspect it has troubled her more than it ever will you and she felt a need to be truthful about it because she wants a future with you.
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Good luck. 馃檪
CestManan 路 46-50, F
My knee-jerk thought would be, "I guess I wasn't the only one".
UnderLockDown 路 M
She's gone!! No ifs ands or buts.
SW-User
i鈥檇 still leave
DownTheStreet 路 51-55, M
Meh
DDonde 路 31-35, M
How long have we been a thing? How early in the relationship was it?
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Dominus 路 31-35, M
@Chaoshead Being you had already been together 3 years at the time and she also did it again since, I may not be so forgiving after all. I've never known of a girlfriend to cheat on me but those I've known who cheat on their boyfriends or husbands tend to do so with some regularity. Likewise I have never cheated on anyone I was in a relationship with.
Mrsbetweenfatandfit 路 26-30, F
I鈥檇 almost question her sudden confession. It seems that was done to try & relieve herself of the guilt for her choice more than to be honest with you. I could be wrong I don鈥檛 know the situation, her as a person or your relationship. But I wouldn鈥檛 make a rash decision either way. This sort of thing deserves your time & attention so you can make the choice that sits best with you going forward. I鈥檓 very sorry for the news. I know how it feels to be betrayed & it鈥檚 heart shattering. 馃挃
Chaoshead 路 22-25, M
@Mrsbetweenfatandfit Well to be honest, it was clearly because of the guilt. I thought that the guilt was a good sign of remorse, but I guess you're right that it was never really about honesty or my right to know.