How to handle being ostracized at work?

I'm so miserable and tired of getting shut out by my coworkers, who used to be friends of mine. I try to be strong and not let it get to me. I would understand if I was difficult to work with and a bitch. But I'm not, I'm always nice, kind, respectful. I never make any conflict. I had to miss work for five months because of my spouses accident. When I got back I was completely ostracized. No one will tell me why, I just get silent treatment. It's just tense and awkward all day long. I've already been thru hell because of this accident, and these awful people know that. So they just pile on the stress and sadness and anger for me. I have no friends now and I have no idea how to make new ones.

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cherryxblossom

I’m so sorry. I’ve witnessed that when a coworker had to be out for months due to health issues. Some people just didn’t believe she needed to miss work, and they never would just be honest with her about the ‘drift’. Working there taught me a huge lesson….If you don’t fit there, get a job somewhere else where you do. Your coworkers make or break your job. And your job is such a large part of your life…it might as well be a good part. I hope things get better for you. Don’t take their behavior personally. I’m sure it isn’t you at all. Some people get so hung up on this crazy intense work ethic of never missing work even if you’re dying. Their priorities are skewed.

Lilliesandlight · 41-45, F

@cherryxblossom priorities are definitely skewed. I've learned through this experience that work isn't as important as I used to think it was. Family is what matters most. I don't understand how people can be cold towards someone who is sick or injured just because they had to miss work. I used to really like working there, now I hate it.