I had a job interview today and it got me thinking. Have you ever declined a job offer after the interview or declined to attend a secondary interview

I interviewed at a place earlier in the week and it got me thinking about my experience and how many others have been in my shoes. I walk in roughly 10 minutes to spare and head up to the front to let the staff know who I was and what I was here for. A man comes out questioning me asking me if I was at the correct location. I pulled out my phone looked at my email and read back the address asking if that address was this one. At this point I'm questioning myself thinking did I make a mistake? The man seems frustrated and stated I didn't know I had an interview today and told me to go sit over in a designated spot. I went and waited and the man comes over and begins asking me the usual interview questions. Why here? What do you bring to the table? What is your availability? While I'm talking I notice him pressing his pen down pretty hard onto the clipboard taking notes as if I just ruined his day. Maybe I over analyzed and it's all in my head but he just seemed pretty agitated and rather impersonal. I tried to make small talk and connect but they weren't having any of it, no smile, no eye contact. I was told they needed to talk it over with their boss and I would hear back if they decided to proceed to the secondary interview.

Today I get a email saying congratulations I've been moved forward to the second interview and all I needed to do was select a date and time. I'm thinking of turning it down because my gut is telling me to. Yes, I need a source of income but I have a voice in the back of my head telling me I'm not going to be a great fit. The voice is saying don't do it keep searching.

I was curious if anyone else got off vibes after leaving an interview or even declined a secondary interview due to a similar feeling or situation.

On a side note the job interview today went better and felt much better. I just have to wait and see what the final decision will be.

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Notladylike

Yes loads of times. I’ve been at the same place for ten years. Every so often I put feelers out

NovaNine · 56-60, M

@Notladylike I don't blame you especially if it's the kind of place where you don't feel valued and have been passed over for promotions in favor of some junior puke. I've had that happen before at a previous job. I trained people without the title of trainer and guess who gets the title of trainer? The people I trained. Yeah...

Notladylike

@NovaNine Sometimes that has happened and it sucks. I’ve got a good role for the moment though. Usually when I explore external options it will be less money for more work so fuck that.

NovaNine · 56-60, M

@Notladylike I've always loved that while reading job listings. Your observation is correct with stating more work for less money. Here I will pay you say $10 per hour to run the place while a higher paying position in the same company has fewer responsibilities. It's like they think we are suckers though they say a sucker is born every minute.

kentex35 · 100+, M

@NovaNine if you are indispensable you'll find it hard to get promoted, what I mean is I had a buddy that was a hell of a carpenter. And this general foreman that we worked with occasionally and he was good. He knew how to run men. Anyway he was always promising my buddy he would make him foreman. But something always happened and my friend came up shirt again. After a few years the truth came out. He said,"Phil, you're just too good with your tools." Phil, my buddy was pissed. But he made money for them. He was a hard worker one what he was doing and with that foreman job like a carrot on a stick, the general foreman could give him an assignment, usually aggravating, had to be exact, and had to be done fast concrete was on the way rush job. I know I was often partnered up with him. I was the saw man, because no one could analyze and get started like him. And the general could go on with the rest of the job and not look back because Phil always delivered. Indispensable.