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The strongest woman I know.

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tl;dr My mom has cancer (this ended up being a lot longer than I intended).

My mom. My first teacher. My first friend. The woman who taught me how to be a mom.

She was diagnosed with cancer in April 2021. Stage IV metastatic breast cancer that had already spread into her organs and her back. Inoperable.

She endured a course of radiation therapy, followed by a round of chemo. Her cancer responded well to the treatment and by April of 2022, her numbers for her cancer markers had dropped significantly.

And then they went back up. Higher than they were when she was first diagnosed.
Another round of chemo… she lost her hair, but never her hope. Then she developed pretty significant neuropathy in her hands and feet, coupled with swelling and fluid retention in her lungs and abdomen.

Her oncologist ended her treatment prematurely because of the side effects she was having.

A few months later, she started a more intensive chemotherapy. She stayed on that up until last week, with no improvement.

Last Sunday, we were supposed to get out and do something together with all of my kiddos. Something we haven’t done much of in the last two years because of her decreased immunity, COVID risk factors, and my fear of getting her sick.

Saturday night/Sunday morning she messaged me that she was going to the ER for extreme abdominal pain. She had a systemic E. coli infection and she was extremely jaundiced and swollen.

A week later, and she’s still in the hospital. Her infection has cleared, but her liver has multiple lesions and just isn’t doing what it’s supposed to. She’s weak and struggled to catch her breath after just a few short steps.

Her oncologist will start another round of chemo in a couple weeks, but it doesn’t sound promising. It’s not a very long lasting treatment and it has a relatively low response rate. That is, if her liver will restore function enough to be able to start it at all.

I’m really trying not to mourn her loss before she’s fully gone, but it’s [i]hard[/i].
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QueenOfTheNerds · 41-45, F Pinned Comment
Mom passed away tonight, surrounded by family and so much love. The world lost the kindest, most giving woman.
@QueenOfTheNerds I'm so very sorry. 😢You must be in so much shock and pain, I also lost my dad to cancer. He was the only one who had faith in me.
pdockal · 56-60, M
@QueenOfTheNerds
Sorry for your loss
HUGS
FreeSpirit1 · 51-55, F
@QueenOfTheNerds So sorry, It's a terrible disease 😢
WillaKissing · 56-60
@QueenOfTheNerds God bless you and your family. I lost both my father and mother to cancer early in their lives Ages 58 and 56, no words will help. Just know I share your love and pain.

With blessings to you and yours.
Slade · 56-60, M
@QueenOfTheNerds oh shit!

Hugs! She sounds great.

The really shitty part of life ☹️
Fertilization · 36-40, F
@QueenOfTheNerds Sorry for the loss. A terrible feeling, after losing your loved ones.
Short of words.
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
@QueenOfTheNerds I am so very sorry to hear this. My condolences to you and your family 💗.
WaryWitchWandering · 36-40, F
@QueenOfTheNerds I am terribly sorry for your loss ❤️

She still lives in you, and you can continue to spread her love and kindness

I’m sure your kiddos are struggling with the loss too, I hope you have someone who can step in when you need a break and time to grieve in your own way. ❤️ Deep breaths… and much love to you and your family
Starcrossed · 41-45, F
@QueenOfTheNerds my sincere condolences. I'm glad to hear she was surrounded by family and love.
LunarOrbit · 56-60, M
@QueenOfTheNerds So very sorry for your loss. :(
@Angelwarfare I'm so sorry Angel. ❤️
likesnatural · 70-79, M
@QueenOfTheNerds I am sorry for your loss and all she meant to you.