I Need to Lose Weight to Feel Better

I wish I was beautiful again, as in skinny. I still like the way I look and dress, I mean I will always have a pretty face, but I've gained 70lbs, and my husband is no longer attracted to me, and wants me to lose the weight, he says that it's him who matters, and that he used to love showing me off, and that he didn't sign up for a fat woman....I mean I can hide it, wearing flowing clothing that has bright pastel colors and white jeans, I look amazing, but I am no longer supermodel material in his eyes. And so I've been making some changes, I am weaning myself off of my medication which made me fat in the first place, and I am eating more and more fruits and vegitables raw.......I will go for long walks or bike rides and get more exercise and swim. And stop putting so much sugar in my coffee and get out of bed and get busy.....Hopefully this will help me to shed the weight and get a leaner and more healthy looking body. For his sake, because he says that he doesn't want me dying before he does............Like I looked myself over in the mirror, my body isn't hideous, it's just more curvy such as love handles thicker arms and a double chin and a belly.

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Steveswife7665 · 46-50, F

No where in the vows do I remember if one gains weight it's a deal breaker. I believe it's in sickness and health. The changes you're making is start remember to add water watch coming off meds without a dr order. Always lose weight and improve yourself because it's what you want to feel better or look better or be healthy. My question is does your husband look like a movie star. Is he the same size when you married. Never let someone tell you you're not good enough for them. Sounds like he's insecure and thinks you could look elsewhere so it's a bullying tactic. Best of luck to you

Flenflyys · 31-35, F

Chantal through god anything is possible so jot that down

saintsong · 41-45, F

@Flenflyys: I will pray to God that I will at least get healthy again, especially cutting out the sugar and starches

FUNBOY · M

You are on the right track with all your positive changes that you've made already. Keep up the good work. I'm dealing with the same problem.

SugarRush · 31-35, F

I would give you the whole "love yourself" crap but damn.. I know how you feel :( remember you got this!

PhoenixPhail · M

It sounds like he married you for the way you look instead of for who you are.

saintsong · 41-45, F

@sophrai: I'm thinking the same thing but that was 20 years ago.

PhoenixPhail · M

@saintchantal: Old and well ingrained habits are hard to break.

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Wghtlvr · M

@SensitiveGirl96 I think both your boyfriends are selfish jerks. Just my opinion.

PhoenixPhail · M

@SensitiveGirl96 Let him go. His "love" is conditional. It's not you he loves, but an image he's holding on to which you need to maintain in order for him to be with you. Find someone who loves you for YOU, not for how you look.

FUNBOY · M

Thanks for the heart!

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