What do I say when people ask where I've been?

I've been gone from school for about a month due to my mental issues. I was put in a mental hospital 3 hours away from my home. I am, well was on the track team. The kids at my school are extremely nosy and pretty much will annoy you until you tell them what they want to know. I really don't want that many people knowing where i've been, but I need to tell them something... any advice?

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Paliglass · 41-45, F

Use wutang "I'm the insane nigga from the psycho ward. I'm on the trigga plus I got my wu-tang sword. So how you figga you are gonna fuck with mine..."

Jokes. I been there. There's stigma. Lie.

Say you had a hernia that had complications of infection and you had to be in hospital and then bed rest - I said that before. No one really cares. They're more concerned about themselves. Hernia operations are key hole so no massive scars if anyone is that nosey.

lilgucciski · 22-25, F

I used to be gone from school for months too. Just tell people you were out of the country visiting a relative who was extremely. Thats what I used to say and they just left me alone. You could tell the truth though, but it's how you deal with their reactions after you've said the truth, although it's none of their business.

alyssathebreadboy · F

That sounds like a good idea, thank you.

loveyourselfalways00 · 22-25, F

Just say you were away due to severe illness (which is the truth as well), and if they carry on pestering you you could just say you had a bad spell of flu or just weird vomity thing or something. It may just come out anyway, these things have a habit of getting around, just try to be prepared for that too.If they have any decency they shouldn't bug you once they know.
Also make sure some friends at school DO know the truth so you have someone to turn to while there

Paliglass · 41-45, F

Once you tell 1 person you've told a hundred. Even a best best friend can accidently confide in another who will confide in another and before you know it everyone is saying "liar" and in this case "weird mental case" nasty people will start to bully and then there'll be another breakdown proving that the liar is indeed a mental case. Best to avoid all that.

A secret is only secret when only 1 person knows the secret. As soon as 2 people know it's not a secret anymore.

It's either tell the truth or tell a lie - to everyone imo.

loveyourselfalways00 · 22-25, F

That really sucks. But I'm sure your best friend will try just as hard as you to keep it secret. Maybe you have to tell them, and surely the staff and teachers at your school should be aware & know how to stop it. Maybe they could do an announcement before you arrive just explaining you were unwell or something

loveyourselfalways00 · 22-25, F

Also if you tell them the truth you'll know who are your friends, because you will find that people are actually pretty sensitive and do understand. I

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

tell them you were exhausted and needed to leave for medical reasons. there are different types of exhaustion.

hlpflwthat · M

The truth. Now is the time to stop being embarrassed about any of your health issues. And who knows? Maybe you can make a difference for someone who follows you. Because others will walk your path - believe it.

Where we've been matters far less than where we are going. Get good with yourself and surround yourself with others who do the same. And get running again - track team or not.

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alyssathebreadboy · F

are you sure being in a mental hospital is a good story...?

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cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

Your medical issues are none of their business, it's the same in the adult world when people start being nosy at work, you are not obligated to discuss it.

Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

Well, it would be the perfect opportunity to mess with them, if that's what you wanted to do.
You could tell them you.......
Had gender re-assignment surgery.
Gave birth to twins.
Had to complete your military service in....Bosnia !
Or of course you could just brush it all away and say it was a medical issue but you're on the mend now.

es0tericus · 26-30

Tell them the truth.

alyssathebreadboy · F

the truth? "Sorry guys for being gone so long. I tried to kill myself and ended up in a mental hospital!" that doesn't sound like the best idea

es0tericus · 26-30

@alyssathebreadboy: Anything otherwise would get you to feel that you're misunderstood, and possibly allow you to lie to yourself. The truth might really strengthen your relationship with those who find you important, not those who are important to you. It comes with all the bs and such but if you're willing to look past it, It would benefit you in the long run. Not everyone is the devil.

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