I did already make a post about this, but I want to add and clarify some things.
On March 10th I was in a pretty gnarly car accident. In my other post I showed the pictures of my car after the fact, but here’s one again:
I don’t remember what happened at all, but some time after the crash the incident report was released, which I read. According to the report, I was driving on the freeway when I came upon a mustang stopped up ahead. This car had been in a previous accident. I slowed down to not hit it, however a speeding Ram truck slammed into me, forcing me into the mustang pretty hard. A witness says that he saw the man, whom he described as bald and about middle aged, get out of his truck, hop over the center freeway divider, get in some Lexus going the other direction, and take off. I know, weird shit, I have SO MANY questions. The gal in the mustang was taken to the same hospital I was and also reportedly did not remember what happened.
About not remembering: So, they (police or paramedics, I’m not sure which) found me unresponsive. I didn’t hit my head on anything, but the whiplash gave me a pretty significant concussion (assuming they didn’t reach me within 60 seconds, that would indicate it was a grade 4 concussion). As a result of the head trauma, I had both retrograde and anterograde amnesia. The last thing I remember prior to the crash was getting in my car to leave and go home. I do not remember the crash itself, or the days I spent in the hospital, or a few days after being sent home. So a period of at least 5 days, if not 6 or 7, is completely missing; I don’t remember a single thing from that period. I’m not exactly sure at what point I became aware of what was going on, I just remember being at home (parents’ house) and understanding that I was in a car crash. I was in quite a bit of pain, and up to that point I had needed to use a walker. I remember seeing the walker in the corner of the room, but I have no memory of actually using it. It’s so strange.
Once I was in the hospital they contacted my mom by finding her info on the vehicle registration, or something like that. She came, and I guess at some point she reached out to my boyfriend and he came to visit me. I don’t know how many times he came or how long he was there for.
My mom has told me a little bit about how I was in the hospital, and I don’t even know how to feel about it. She said that I seemed aware of what was going on, however I acted in ways I would never act if I were actually self aware. I don’t know what I was doing, but mom said that at one point they literally had to call in backup to restrain me. I was constantly crying and carrying on, and would literally scream anytime a nurse or doctor would touch me at all, even just a light touch. I was in a shared room with multiple beds and multiple patients, and I was being loud and obnoxious as fuck, just crying, screaming, and carrying on. My mom was embarrassed. One night my mom went home to get some sleep, and literally 1 hour after she left, she got a phone call. I had begged a nurse to let me call her. I was asking where she was. So I guess I was aware enough to realize that she was there before but wasn’t there anymore.
The only tests I’m aware that they did at the hospital are the CT scan (which came out fine, no major bleeds or skull fractures), and the blood test. They informed my mom that they would be sending the toxicology report to the DMV, because of what they found in my system. I’m an addict, yes, however the crash was in no way my fault, and I was not driving high. Hopefully no restrictions will be placed on my license… I haven’t heard anything in regard to that so I think that’s a good sign…
This post ended up being A LOT longer than I intended, but I still have so much to talk about. For other posts they’ll have to be.
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I'm not doubting your story in any way whatsoever, but it seems a little bit strange that you don't remember anything and you make a point to emphasize that, but you do remember you were not at fault in any way and that something was found in your toxicology report worthy of sending to the DMV and you are now worried about restrictions being placed on your license. There are just some loose ends that seem frayed and not fitting together.
Anyway, glad to hear you are recovering. Welcome back.
@MarkPaul I don’t get how those are “loose ends,” I know it wasn’t my fault because I read the incident report (which included exactly what happened based on the cars’ positions and witness statements) and I remember that I didn’t get high before getting in my car, and I know about the toxicology report cause my mom told me. None of that was based on any information gathered in the first week. It was all stuff I found out after.
@Zeuro It just seems strange that you took the care and time to insert all of your alleged "alibi" information into your rehearsed story. Look, I'm not saying you were at fault or that there is anything super-suspicious about your story about what happened. But... it just seems that everything doesn't fit quite so well. I mean there are just some questionable parts of your story... I guess we could classify it. That's all.
1. "I don’t remember what happened at all..." and "however the crash was in no way my fault, and I was not driving high." It's surprising you remember that piece of information. That would be an alibi.
Dramatization... You: "Honest Officer, I don't remember a thing of what happened." Officer: "Oh, okay, Ma'am... so what do you think happened?" You: "Well, I wasn't high if that's what you mean." Officer: "Oh, so you do remember that?" You: "Yes, Sir. I'm sure I wasn't high or anything like that."
2. From the police report... "A witness says that he saw the man, whom he described as bald and about middle aged, get out of his truck, hop over the center freeway divider, get in some Lexus going the other direction, and take off." This literally would mean the "perp" had this whole thing planned, staged, and timed. That seems over-the-top... more like the stuff of a dream than reality.
3. From your mother's recollection... "I was constantly crying and carrying on, and would literally scream anytime a nurse or doctor would touch me at all, even just a light touch" and "...and I was not driving high." I'm no expert, but this literally suggests you were coming down off of something.
I don't know why I'm the one getting yelled at when all I'm literally doing is using my honed observation skills trying to point out the inconsistencies in your story. I'm not saying I'm doubting your story. I'm not saying you are crying out for attention. I'm not saying you were the one who caused the accident because of your drug use. I'm just trying to help by saying your story doesn't seem entirely reasonable or realistic or entirely believable. That's all.
@Zeuro Look, I'll admit you have constructed your story with rationale, threads of innocence, and the remnants that come from a victim's interpretation of the story. And again, it's not like I'm saying your anecdote didn't happen or that you have, you know, some other motive behind your interpretation of events. It's interesting though you completely run-over the parts of your story that I expose as sus. Like...
1. You said you don't remember anything AND you seem to know the accident could in no way (no how) be your fault. That has nothing to do with remembering what you were doing BEFORE the alleged accident. It has EVERYTHING to do with you suddenly seeming to remember chosen parts of what happened AFTER and in a defensive way. Let me break this down further... if you don't remember anything after the accident because of a concussion of some sort, then how can you be 100% certain you played no part in causing the accident? I mean, that just doesn't add up. If you insist on NOT remembering anything after the accident, then you don't know for certain if you caused the accident. That's an observation with a logical conclusion on my part based on common sense. Even you need to and must admit that.
2. As you know from prior evidence with my insights, I do know how human activity works and after a major accident, some random guy who allegedly caused the accident is not going to jump out of his vehicle, run to the other side, flag down a random car going the other way and be free and clear. That literally makes no sense. Again, my keen observation is able to deduct something is not setting right in this part of your story. Again, this is like a dream sequence that doesn't stand up in the light of day.
3. Okay, I will admit I have no first-hand experience with hard drug usage and withdrawal, but your defensive attitude suggests there are some holes in this part of the story as well and at the very least. Let me be specific...
a. If you were knowingly going through withdrawals, the responsible thing would have been not to drive in the first place. b. I didn't say you were high while driving. I mean how would I even know? I think you will agree, I'm not one to jump to conclusions. Instead, I suggested you were coming "down" off something. That's literally what withdrawal is.
My point is as careful as you were to thread your story, there are obvious holes that even an inexperienced detective would immediately see through. My points are hardly nitpicked inconsistences; they are literally gaping holes. Again, I'm not trying to cast doubt on what happened, take away from the seriousness of your situation, or claim some game points in your imagined battle of wits you have with me. I'm only trying to help as a friend. And, instead all I get in return is being yelled at. If anything that is what is getting old. After all, I'm just trying to help.
