So let’s talk about consent and victim blaming.

There has been some talk here today about flirting and where the line is when the other person seems to go along with it but later recants that claim. While another person may seem into it, there could still be a problem with power discrepancy. Is the flirting person in a position of power? Do they have influence or popularity? The fact is that the person they’re flirting with (online or irl) may not be as comfortable with the situation as it may seem. Often they will go along with it for fear of consequences, being ostracized, triggering the other person, etc.
Now when this happens how do you know if the person you are flirting with is really receptive or if they’re just avoiding drama? Well, it’s not always easy. But if approached later about it, you can listen to them and apologize. Because even if you didn’t know or intend to make them feel this way, that is the way they feel. It’s normal to feel shocked and feel you need to defend yourself, but insisting that the other person went along with it and could have just said to stop is victim blaming, plane and simple. Imagine how you would feel gathering the courage to say you were wronged only to be attacked for it.
I don’t know how to close this out, but I’ve said my piece. I’m sure some will disagree, but this is something I feel strongly about and I needed to get it out while it seems to be a hot topic here.

BlueVeins · 22-25

A lotta people seem to think an apology is only warranted when what takes place is an actual misdeed, whereas the safer and more socially accepted standard -- at least in cases such as these -- is whether one's actions cause another harm. Honestly, I can see how the misdeed standard is a lot more comforting; it suggests that there's some acceptable course of action one could stick to and never have to issue an apology. But that's not how life works at all, and "There was no way I could have reasonably prevented that" is not a satisfying rebuttal to someone else's pain.