I have three kids. It's better to have both parents.

They don't deserve it, but neither did we when Jesus forgave us.

Thing is, forgiving someone serves three purposes that I can think of:

1. If someone is truly repentative for cheating, has apologized and vows to never do it again, I think sometimes maybe they just weren't thinking straight and needed to mature, grow up in life. I could see them grieving over their foolish mistake. Then I think we should forgive them. We all make mistakes. However, it's up to the one who was cheated on, whether or not they want to give that person another chance or not. I personally would not care to. Just because we forgive, doesn't mean that person is for us, or that we'll want to be friends with them.

2. Forgiving brings us closure and helps us move on in a better way.

3. Forgiveness helps US heal better. Carrying around hate and unforgiveness, is like drinking poison each day. It damages our Spirit and destroys our body. Healing also takes longer and it's more painful. Hate and resentment Wars against the mind, as well. Not worth it.

Forgiveness is more for our benefit, than theirs. It's not excusing what they did or saying that was "okay". It's not.

I’ve only seen it come up when the couple’s so integrated that separating would cause financial hardship and insufficient support, or they’re hoping to work through it for the kids.

In other cases it’s just that someone in the relationship has really low self-esteem and they’ve not yet accepted there are other better options.

I'm just thinking what if they both cheated? Would they both forgive each other and start over or both not and then split?

I say no. Once you cheat the bond is broken.

I think it’s too personal to say .

It is entirely up to each individual.

There are much, much worse things you can do to somebody

Forgiveness worked for us, so I recommend it.

Cheating CAN be forgiven only if it doesnt include going back to the cheater...

Usually, I would say the same. But in a situation where both had cheated, say they’d been together a long time and had drifted apart, with a renewed commitment and counseling, possibly the trust could be regained. It would depend on the couple’s wants, of course.

Forgive but not forget.